Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Crazyhurt 02/06/2017

my best and only friend (my wife) wants to be separate. She just changed her status on Facebook to single even though we are still living in the same house together. I know all the upsides and the ive got to do me sides and and all the down sides to it. My question is this. When someone like me cant trust anyone and has been let down by too many people....friends and family.... Then how can i ever expect to find someone els or ever have a chance of getting back with the one i have ever loved? I dont have friends i have people i know and cant trust. No one to talk to but strangers i guess.

Crazyhurt 02/06/2017

I also feel very numb to lfe right now. The only thing keeping me is my children. I hate that my little girl is going to be torn apart if things escalate to where we dont make it together.

Needtofindpeace 02/06/2017

I just had the love of my life leave me two weeks ago. I come from a dysfunctional family and trust is very hard for me. Things were going amazing, no problems at all....we were best friends. Then i had a bad night when he was home visiting his parents and freaked out - trust issues came out full force. i said things I didnt mean.....apologized and begged for forgiveness the next day. But it was too late. He doesnt understand anxiety and that people can say things they dont mean. When he came back he had such cold eyes and told me to get my things and leave. He hasnt spoken to me in two weeks. How can you just overlook years of happiness after only one moment of fear. Feel completely abandoned and also heavy with guilt. I also dont know how I will ever trust again....

Crazyhurt 02/06/2017

I did the ssme things only some worse. I too come from a dysfunctional family and have alot of trust issues. She is my first love so dont know how to act right.

Crazyhurt 02/06/2017

I gotta believe that things for you and for me will me alright in the end. Dont know how just yet is all. Thank you for sharing that with me.

saltandlight828 02/06/2017

Wow. I am sorry you are going through this and please know you are not alone. From what it sounds like you still want to be with your wife and possibly make it work especially since you have a daughter but your wife has shattered your trust. If I could suggest maybe asking your wife to go to counseling, if you have not already, and then you will have put your full effort in. If she still chooses to separate then okay you tried your best. But do not let her stop you from trusting others, not everyone will hurt you. There are good, loyal, and trustworthy people out there. You are stronger than you know. Good luck with everything.

Crazyhurt 02/06/2017

Thank you but she doesn't and i guess i just have to focus on me

learningselfvalue 02/07/2017

Facebook is toxic, and could potentially make things worse.

I had no friends after starting over, so I decided to join a bowling league. That went good enough, so I then volunteered at an animal shelter. Met lots of people.

It doesn't produce anyone who can instantly be a caring friend and take all of everything in, but it gets one on the way. Best of luck.

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