Ugh this hits home for sure. Most of my friends were also my husbands friends. When we split, they split. Maybe they were uncomfortable, maybe they felt closer to him. Whatever the reason, I have not heard a word from most of them in months. Rumors are just that - rumors. If they were real friends they would ask you or find out, not just assume. People like this suck, and are not worth your friendship. Don't sweat this....for every one lost you will find a new one to take their place.

Thanks SBC, just sucks when you have been a good friend, but get ditched because someone is uncomfortable. Oh well, guess I will go for a run after work.

Yes, absolutely sucks. A real friend sticks by you regardless, remember that. It won't be like this forever for us, before we know it we will wonder why we ever let ourselves feel this way. Hugs!

In divorce many relationships change and Not all
for the better, you are no longer a Wife or husband.
You are not part of a pair, you are the odd duck out.

Family's take sides even With children involved.
Good friends go by the wayside, even friends that
listened for Awhile they get burnt out then you
feel like an Island and even lonelier.

Its all a vicious cycle, during divorce your feelings
And emotions are running the show and you have
To tread carefully before your mouth gets you in
Trouble. Its emotional, financial and legal overload.

It Generally does not go back to how it was, i moved
13 Miles away and hardly go to visit where i use to live,
Its too painful, i see plenty of them now where i live. Its
still not the same when you were part of the community
For 30 years. I need to weigh the hurt and pain to the good
I might feel. Its very sad. HUGS

People thrive on rumor mills unfortunately. Especially if you're from a small town.

My advice is cut your losses. The friends who genuinely care will come forward over time.

In the meantime, do you REALLY want an invite to a party that your ex will be at or might be at? I wouldn't. But that's just me.

Trust me she won't be there, I just can't believe not one single person reached out that we have been friends with for 20 years. Our son is escorting the peoples daughter to cotillion that are having the party tonight. I just don't get it. I guess I don't care, just feels so lonely. Already had my run. Going to turn in early and read.

STex that truly sucks. Aloneness sucks. Sorry. But you sound like a good man. Better days are coming. Stay strong. You'll meet/make new friends. And they will most likely be a "real" friendships You'll have great discernment. Something to look forward to in these bleak moments. Keep going. Happy Halloween btw..

Thanks ltwist. Better days are coming. There is purpose in our pain!