Maybe you could hire a helper, many of us
Just need someone to talk to. Can you go
Into town somewhere every once in awhile
And be part of a group.

That will be tough to be that isolated and
Truly all Alone. Keep reaching out here and
Other groups that interest you.

Live people are needed to stay sane, i work On
me being all alright being alone. What you Have
is no human contact until you go to town Or leave
the ranch. Do you have any close by neighbors?
Hugs

You are a lucky man to be located where you are. I would be happy out in the middle of nowhere. Please try to be at peace with what has happened to you. I would not be surprised if you have women on here interested in meeting you.

I am not a farmer, but that sounds like a LOT of land to work! How do you manage to do it all?

Lb7268, this is NOT a dating site.

Anyone who hooks up with an equally sick and suffering person is looking for trouble first of all.

But that kind of thinking is kind of a deterrent to many woman here who are sharing our struggles.

Brings to mind the 13 steppers who use 12 step meetings to find vulnerable women.

Sick.

Dating or finding anyone is the last thing on my mind. I believe most of us on here male and female are just trying to make it through the hurt. We pour out our souls to people who are equally broken not expecting anything in return except support. It makes me feel better if I can ease someone's pain when I can't ease my own. Suggesting that you can find a date here goes against the whole premise of what is taking place daily in our lives as we share them here with strangers who make us feel better. We are all vulnerable and this site offers a unique outlet for all the emotions we are going through.

Amen to that STex.

Seems like there's no place to turn when you just want some support and understanding. There's always someone looking for more.

I can assure you I was NOT looking for a dating site nor a relationship with anyone on this site. Not sure how you reached that conclusion from my statement. I have had relatives that have used online dating and no one has had a good experience. There was a reply about visiting but if you look at the reply the author did not mean to send it to me, believe my I want No visitors at this point in my recovery.

I wasn't referencing anything you said 1daatatime. I was referring more to lb7268's comment.

I've been a lurker here for maybe 3 months, and there seem to be some people who mistake this site for a singles bar.

I understand this is a very lonely, frightening time for many, but this is not the place.

I just felt that needed clarification for the few who don't seem to get that.

Anyone who thinks replacing what they think they lost with someone else is the answer is in for a rude awakening somewhere down the line.

Like STex said, I'm just looking to make it through the hurt

Thanks for the clarification. A little raw these days. I can't imagine looking for someone on a nationwide site. I'm sure I live a great distance from anyone here. It's five hours to a major metro area.
Have a great day and I'll try too.

You too 1daatatime. We're all a little raw.

Very hurtful times.

I was pretty raw during all my marital
Troubles. I Am glad for that part being
Over and done with.

Now onto the healing, growing and changing
part thats hard too but its at my own pace
And going very slowly beats the raw stage.
HUGS

No friends? That's sad indeed.

I do know loneliness far too well. Within the last 12 months, I lost my grandmother, a cousin, an aunt, and most significantly, my brother and father. All except grandma, to cancer. My father was my best friend, my mentor, my confidante. So as I continue to mourn these losses, I now am mourning the death of my relationship too. Devastating and the "silence" of being and feeling alone is taxing and overwhelming.

I feel your pain.

I agree about dating another newly divorced person. I won't join a face to face group because I don't want to fall into the trap of being with another injured person for comfort. I set a one year rule.

That's a very wise decision 1daatatime.