He calls six times in one day, about the house? Or, he used to call six times a day? Did he say he wanted a divorce...because of the house?

He calls six times with excuses about what we have to do to "close up" the house, but it is so repetitive by the second time. Then other times he says he calls just to say hello. The house was a contributing factor in the divorce, but that isn't the only reason. said we became more like friends. why does he call so much?

So sorry you're going through this. My husband left me unexpectedly as well. About his calling though, sounds like he doesn't know what the hell he wants. I wouldn't take his calls, he's just messing with your emotions.

If he decided that you had become "more like friends" he wasn't being a very good friend. Divorce is a pretty huge life changing event, that affected his "friend" with his decision. If I were making a decision that affected my friend's life, I'd like to think I'd let the friend have some input into my decision.
However, you are both more than friends. You are husband and wife. He made a huge decision, based on criteria only he knows...but wants to continue calling you, so that you can be his friend. How thoughtful.
Whatever he's going through, I don't think you're doing him any favors by allowing him to treat you as a friend when he's wounded you so deeply. I'd suggest that if he wants to converse with you, you recommend any further interactions be limited to email - especially about the house. That way, he doesn't have to call you repeatedly, he can get what he wants across in writing. As far as the calls, where he wants to just "say hello"...let him know that you are hurt, you're confused, and you're dealing with a lot of pain, anger, etc. You're dealing with facing life without him, and you're not sure if or when you'll feel comfortable being friends with him. He just sucker-punched you, and he wants to talk about the weather? He may be second-guessing his decision, but while he thinks he'll still have you available to "say hello", he's probably thinking he did what's best.

I think I will start to act like I don't care if I talk to him. Maybe if I don't answer he will start to think over what he did. I am hurt and angry and maybe it is time he knows it. You are right!

ugh! talk about adding coals to a fire.. losing your home is hard enough without losing the one you thought you loved too.. I'm so sorry to hear this.. I agree with what the others here have said.. sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, and I agree with you! Stop answering the phone.. he can leave a message

My wife just walked in one day after a visit with her brother; and just TOLD me that she was filing for divorce; and leaving the house as soon as she packed up her things. No warning at all; and I was blindsided by both her and her brother. I had spoken to her every night while she was gone; and she never even let a clue slip, that something was wrong. Never had any fights or arguments, Just completely out of the blue. That is not how a person you spent 30 years with should treat someone. It shoes no respect at all, for all those years.