Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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No Contact.... why and how?

savvyscrapper
savvyscrapper
It seems so hard and many of us seem to find excuses to break the NC.

Is it normal to constantly screw up? Do you feel it worked if you did it? Did any of you do this also in hopes to get back together or just to break ties for good? How did you stick with it? Suggestions that might help?
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
Everybody breaks it and what I've found is while you go through the pain it teaches you not to keep doing it because you feel so shitty for breaking it lol. It's difficult at first, you break it and get a breadcrumb and you hope to keep the convo going etc etc but you learn it's pointless. Eventually you know if you keep putting your hand in the fire it's still going to burn. It takes time but the lesson is always the same. No matter what advice you get sometimes you have to learn on your own and go through the pain. Sucks but over time it does get easier.
mynewnormal
mynewnormal
Coop you always have the best advice.. seriously, you just have a way of putting my thoughts into words and SO much better then I could :)

I totally agree.. it was extremely hard for me at first too.. more out of habit, the daily txting, the calls at lunch.. but each contact another barb was thrown.. and it hurt all over again, if not worse.. its not easy by ANY means.. but as time goes on, one day at a time.. it gets easier.. and the pain eases.. its a tough road, .. but its the best road to finding your new life and your new happiness.. stand your ground, look out for yourself.. and dont let them in.. your hurting right now, and they know that.. and can use it to their advantage.. just keep that door shut, theres nothing positive for you there..