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cwalla
cwalla
This may sound weird, but I hope not. Is there anyone who used to be able to enjoy a glass (or 2!) of wine, couple beers, etc. but no longer can because they are afraid of how it might affect them mentally (like make you cry EVEN MORE and really fall apart!) Maybe this is stupid question - I was just thinking about all the things I once enjoyed, i.e. sunset, full moons, fall leaves falling, Rascal Flatts, and even these things are triggers for sadness now. Really p-----s me off!! (FYI, I have no alcoholic tendencies!) Just wondering if I am the only one......
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
I didn't stay away from it intentionally for those reasons, no. I found that there were times where I would go more towards drinking a "few" when I was feeling at my lowest. But there have been other things I have avoided so not to trigger anything or to make me feel worse then I already did. So I can get that.

I am sorry you are feeling like you have to keep your distance from the things you once enjoyed or found peace/solice in. Its frustrating as you already pointed out. but you are not the only one who has avoided such things. It's a defense mechanism that sometimes our bodies or minds go in to, whether we realize it or not.

Hang in there, tho, I am sure as you heal and find your strength and feet getting back under you, that you are going to start to enjoy those things again with a more positive and peaceful feeling from them.

best wishes.