Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Another night at work over and I'm in another funk tonight after having what I felt was a good night last night.
With my job, I am driving around all night on rotating weekends and that leaves plenty of time to think and it's not always good. I think why tonight was tough was that it was Saturday and I figured that she was probably out with him although I really shouldn't care what she is doing.
Hopefully a lot of these thoughts will move either out or to the back of my head Monday afternoon as that looks like when I'll finally be able to get the divorce paperwork filed. It's been one setback or another the past week or so that always prevented it from happening but I think Monday should be clear for now.
While I'm looking forward to getting it done, at the same time I also don't want it done because it's the legal beginning to the end of my marriage.
It's thinking like this that makes the night times hard to bear occasionally, even if I'm off work. That in turn keeps me up later than I need to be and wipes me out for the next day because the sleep is hardly restful. Maybe starting Monday I'll be able to get some good sleep again
With my job, I am driving around all night on rotating weekends and that leaves plenty of time to think and it's not always good. I think why tonight was tough was that it was Saturday and I figured that she was probably out with him although I really shouldn't care what she is doing.
Hopefully a lot of these thoughts will move either out or to the back of my head Monday afternoon as that looks like when I'll finally be able to get the divorce paperwork filed. It's been one setback or another the past week or so that always prevented it from happening but I think Monday should be clear for now.
While I'm looking forward to getting it done, at the same time I also don't want it done because it's the legal beginning to the end of my marriage.
It's thinking like this that makes the night times hard to bear occasionally, even if I'm off work. That in turn keeps me up later than I need to be and wipes me out for the next day because the sleep is hardly restful. Maybe starting Monday I'll be able to get some good sleep again
Your posts have helped me deal with this whole mess I am going through. I feel encouraged and validated when I hear (read) someone's story that is similar to mine. I am sorry for the circumstances that brought you here, but I am glad you are here and I know I am not alone in appreciating your input. Hang in there. You can make it through this. Take care!
Tammi
I'm so sorry for the pain you have been going through. I try to remind myself to breathe and that while the pain is there now I can get through it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Sometimes bad things can turn into good things if given enough time.
Hugs to you,
anna
I know that my mind, body and soul have taken such a beating during this whole process. Lost 17 lbs, self esteem is shot to hell and it's the steady rundown feeling like you don't matter in the big picture that just kicks the living crap out of me.
I want to see a doctor next week sometime for a complete checkup. Going thru all the physical and emotional stress of the divorce/separation plus an extremely high pressure time at work has combined to take a big toll. I've also had a stomach ache at times so I can't rule out a stress ulcer either but a doc would be able to find out.
A lady friend of mine is a retired anatomy and biology teacher and told me that my testosterone level could be low which also could be a factor so that is convincing me to seek the medical help. No matter what, it's time to start taking better care of myself.
Another technique that I learned when my brother died is what I call closing the door. When painful thoughts or memories creep into my mind, I literally close the door on those thoughts and redirect my mind elsewhere. I've noticed that anytime I start going over everything in my head it has a very negative affect on me and makes me sad and hurt all over again. I literally picture myself closing the door on these thoughts. Sometimes I have to push really hard and use my whole body to close that door because sometimes those thoughts are like monsters trying their best to come after me. Sounds stupid, I know, but it works for me.
Do you have any hobbies that interest you? The more time I devote to my hobby the less time I spend thinking about him. It helps.