A dog would help they Are a great comfort, they
need you and Offer unconditional love And they
have a zest for life and fun.

I am sorry for all your hurt and pain in the marrriage
break down. My ex was long Gone for at least 12
years before the divorce. I wish i had the guts to
leave him when he started acting out. It only got
much worse not better.

I believe in therapy and divorce care it Helps
with the grief and the divorcing process. Grieving
Your losses is very important. Glad you are Going
to church. Keep reaching out to Healthy caring
loving people.

Yes we can and do burden our friends, family and
Coworkers. Our pain is so intense and we feel out
Of our minds and our emotions and feelings are off
The charts. I cried for 4 months after he left also if
there Is a third party it makes everything much more
intense and Crazymaking.

Keep posting on here, we are all in this together and
Some are on different timelines. The divorce process
is Something to get thru and survive. Then the healing
Can start post divorce. That too is not an easy journey
Either. HUGS

Hang in there. We're all members of a group we never wished to join but we're here together and we're not alone. We all can get thru this but it is sometimes one minute at a time. I'm sorry for your pain.

thank you for your support there is a third party involved and the feelings and thoughts get really intense I couldn't sleep for first week soon as I close my eyes I would have visions of them it was really bad I'm doing little better with that .whats sad is I would still take her back .I keep thinking maybe I jumped the gun.it was all my fault pushed her away .its driving me crazy its really hard to get through day hear a song think of her, tv show comes on think of her, need milk think of her I keep saying to myself shes not thimking of you stop it.but it dosnt always work

All true. Have gone theu the same thing with my wife. She cheated on me and checked out on me and our 2 boys. Hard not to think about her and this guy. Who likes to post comments on FB. I block them. But I still hear about it from other family members and friends. But I look at the class of people she is hanging out with and she has become just like them. Sad really. I even helped her raise the 2 kids she came into the relationship with when we first started our relationship. It is hard just have to keep breathing and take it a minute at a time.

I'm realizing the only way to get through is with church and the support from here all the people on here are a blessing and I definitely know and share your pain I'm hoping to get to a positive place where some of you are. I pray and give thanks to you all

MR try to keep the BF out of your head its
Not productive to go there. She is the one
You are married to and said your vows with
Not him. Stop using your imagination in that
Way, it only harms and torments you.

Block her on Facebook and anyone that might
Post pictures or comments. Once seen or heard
Its almost impossible to get image out of your
Head.

Many things will trigger you especially music you
Like and that will evoke an emotion. I was triggered
today just looking at his brand of shaving cream. Its
the little and big things, people and places. HUG

thank you mirandac I'm just scared and lonely have been reading other post .looks as I have not even got to the worst part yet I don't know if I'm strong enough .we havnt even discussed divorce yet I'm out of the house in my own apt. she barely communicates with me keeps saying shes busy
my mind keeps trying to figure out what shes doing.when we were together she rarely left house
never wanted to do anything at all I tried

I read somewhere to forgive her and recognize your own mistakes so you can learn, move on and its not on your conscience anymore I cant get there

Can you get into therapy and divorce care,
Both really do help plus church. At divorce
Care each week you work on things. Forgiveness
Is one and that is my favorite video. It just
Takes time and willingness. I have gone to
Divorce care as often as i needed to, its only
For 13 weeks.

I am going to be honest it takes many three years
Post divorce to normalize. To Be ready and willing
To move on and have your own life that is going in
A good healthy new direction without your ex.

I am not there yet myself, i am 20 months post
Divorce and no contact for almost that long. It
Takes time and depends on you and how long
Your Recovery takes. HUGS

Sorry to hear about your marriage and heartache! You may want to go to a counselor just to get it all off your chest in a trustworthy environment. Try your best to keep your head up.... we are also hear to listen anytime!!