Hi Keene. I hope this reaches you at a better time and frame of mind. Rejection can be a very difficult thing to process. Whether deliberate or not. One of the most important things for the both of you is communication. Continuing to open up and talk about the issues between you is very important because it provides an opportunity to boundaries. Both of you deserve to be treated the way YOU want to be treated. We all have different needs and desires and even if similar, they will undoubtedly vary in degree. Take the time to re-evaluate you’re own needs and desires. Revisiting your own boundaries will give you a fresh perspective on what you expect from him. If he isn’t respecting those boundaries, the direction of your focus will be clear. It’s easy to misguide our emotions because we all passionately want to be happy. We unfortunately live in a world that makes it difficult to realize that WE ourselves hold the cards for that happiness. We are always in control of it. We are personally responsible for continuing to subject ourselves to toxic and unhealthy environments. A bad relationship is no different. Thankfully, it’s a fixable environment. You just have to want it. I wish the two of you the best. Relationships are complex. They can be difficult and trying. They can also be the most amazing thing we can experience. Just like anything else we want to be good at, it takes practice. We can practice at being bad at relationships, or we can practice at being good. Learning to take care of yourself, learning to make yourself happy will ALWAYS be the key to sharing it with someone else. Sending lots of love and positivity your way!

I am the husband of a wife that is the same way if not worse. Her order of priority is our daughter, work, her dog, then me. For a relationship to work, the husband and wife must be good first, then the other things will fall in line. She always is too tired and falls asleep on
me. I almost never take priority. Then she gets angry with me when I communicate to her that I feel unwanted and unneeded. It’s hard to feel rejected. I have communicated this to her over a hundred times. At this point, I just need to get it through my head that actions speak louder than words. I want it to work, but for the past two years it isn’t what I want and need. I deserve better. Just sharing my feelings so that you know you aren’t alone in this situation. I feel I have to take the next step to move on and create my own happiness in life and not depend on someone who doesn’t give it to you. It may not be what you want to hear, but it also may be what you need to hear and understand. Sorry you feel this way.

I did that to my ex girlfriend because I felt that I had been doing everything for her and she took me for granted.

So instead, I just acted like she don’t exist.

It was very hard for me to pretend. I wanted to hug her, kiss her, hold her but I couldn’t.

Like you, She was miserable. She eventually met someone else and we broke up.

It wasn’t my fault. In the beginning, I cut class to hangout with her. I brought her favorite treat regularly. I called her every night to say goodnight. I took her out wherever she wanted. I did everything for her and she dumped me for some guy who had sex with her and dumped her.

We got back together but I wasn’t willing to go the extra mile anymore. I was waiting for her to go the extra mile and put in more effort but she didn’t.

Perhaps you’re not putting in the extra effort either. Maybe breakup and find someone else.

How long have you been married ? You need to talk about it with him .