Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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brrriiiaaa 04/09/2017

I'm in a new relationship but I still think about my past relationship at times. I think about how I'm not the same person I use to be and how hurt I am. I think about how I used to have so much energy but I feel like I'll never get my life back with the most amazing guy I'm with now. I don't consider myself depressed BUT I often think about killing myself because I'm tired of the pain and want to be happy again. I really need help. When I'm doing things and being productive , everything is fine but when I'm just in my bed , at home , I think the worse. Please help. My ex and I broke of the relationship 5 months ago but it wasn't 100% over until like February. I really need help because I want to love again without overthinking, having negative thoughts. PLEASE HELP

mirandac 04/09/2017

Five months is not enough time, basically
You are in a rebound relationship. You need
To heal yourself and your heart.

I like therapy And divorce care or a breakup
group. Thats me and what i did to work on
Myself and my own issues.

Grief has its own timeline and the emotional
Rollercoaster keeps running while you are
grieving Your losses.

Take care of that depression go on meds if
You need to, some do if they are suicidal or
Can not get out of bed and take care of the
most basic things like work and children. HUGS

Nina1957 04/09/2017

I was on a rebound with a man that just lost his wife. He chased me intensively and I finally gave in. Big mistake

brrriiiaaa 04/09/2017

I don't consider this relationship a rebound because I'm happy and I always wanted to be with this person but thank you for your advice

mirandac 04/09/2017

I did not know you were that young I should
have looked first, so no probably not A rebound.
When i was young you just Found a new BF and
that was the end of the sadness and grief.

Take care of the depression though, HUGS

brrriiiaaa 04/09/2017

Thank you so much. Do you have any suggestions to get over my depression?

mirandac 04/09/2017

Can you talk to a therapist or school Counselor
about those issues?

There have been many that Just needed to
give themselves time to grieve and Process
their feelings, emotions and losses. You probably
Are just not ready to date again so soon would
be my Guess, HUGS

brrriiiaaa 04/10/2017

I talked to my mom and I felt a little bit better. I was just feeling like because because I was in bed all day and my thoughts got to me

mirandac 04/10/2017

I do hope you have a counselor or a
Therapist if you are too anxious or too
Depressed. Glad you talked to your
Mom, HUGS

nik2017 04/10/2017

Hi honey,
I was in an awful relationship two years ago. He was abusive and controlling and I left. It followed with numerous court cases and I finally was rid of him. It was a very very traumatic experience. However, I didn't deal with my emotions.

In fact I just decided to get into another relationship a few months later. Whilst this brought me temporary satisfaction. I loved him. I still do. It soon came to light that those feelings I hadn't dealt with, they caught up. As they always do.

I started feeling depressed, lashing out at my boyfriend, I started comparing, I started feeling anxious. Panicking. Not only did I lose peace, but I lost my boyfriend too.

I will only recommend that you take some time out for yourself. I wish I had taken a break from my boyfriend and gone to therapy. I would have still had him.

Lots of hugs and love your way. Keep strong. There's a lot of people who are or have gone through this x

Biatta 04/10/2017

I do not know you, but I feel for you deeply and sincerely. Yes, the pain may be so strong that you think that life is worthless as long you suffer emotionally so much. When you have this pain , everything lost its meaning and fades away. It is truth. But, any pain goes away other the time. This is a law of nature. It will go away. And, you will come back to the old you..or you might become a new person, the stronger and happier one.
If you still did not recover from the previous relationships, what makes you be with another person? If you are still attached emotionally to one person, the other person will not heal you. It is all the opposite. You'll feel you do something that against your current emotional state.
May be all you need is just a break from everyone. To be on your own. Is it possible? You do not have to break up completely...just take a break.
Do not do anything to yourself!Just DO NOT! Life will be different for you! You will be happy!
I am 44...had many romances before I married. Loved, broke up, was betrayed..I know how does it feel when nothings matters and you do not have energy to live this life.
Now I am married for 14 years to a very emotionally abusive man, 2 kids, one is Autistic..I can not divorce because I can not survive financially without my husband. I am educated, smart and creative person, very strong willed..live in the best country in the world..and I am trapped and feel like my personal freedom was taken from me. My life is a nightmare.
But...even I dream big! Dream about LOVE! Dream about good man I will meet some day! Then, I loose the hope and get depressed. Than, again I dream!
I am sure you are younger than me, possibly your circumstances are better.
Find courage to get out from this emotional trap! You will come out with solution. Follow your heart not your depressing thoughts.

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