I agree, the hardest part is the loneliness. I just left my husband about 4 weeks ago and the last couple of years were extremely lonely already. He was always on his phone "playing games." Later I found out he'd been talking to different women and more. I didn't think I'd be even more lonely leaving that awful situation but... at least there was a little conversation once in a while in passing. My friends, well, they want to tell me about their lives. So, okay. I listen to them. And write in a diary. Have you looked up in meetup if there's a group for singles ladies in your age range in your town, or a gardening or book club or whatever it is that you enjoy? Maybe even a group for people going through a break up?

I agree my husband left me for another woman and I am miserable lonely. It's hard I try and find stuff to do but it's hard.

I haven't check for groups. It's really hard for me to put myself out there. I have horrible social anxiety so that makes the loneliness harder to combat. I know I need to do something. I love my friend. It it's nice having someone who understands what I'm feeling.

I feel the same way.. he moved on so fast. I don't even know where to start the whole process of just being without him .. I want to and I'm going to. It just hard

The best advice I can offer you is what someone once gave me ten plus years ago. It removed my feelings of loneliness and extinguished the void I was in constant search of filling. The wanton desire to have someone in my life, to feel complete, blinded me from the truth that was literally staring right back at me.

I was freed from the pains of constant loneliness, besieged by the years of depression. It was like the chicken and the egg, I didn't know which came first. Once I was able to understand the concept, and use it, I realized the power it had. I discovered things about me I never realized I was capable of doing. It affected every aspect of my life.

But it took me a third time to read it, and two years in passing, before I was able to understand the words, their simplicity and complexity, then ten years of practice to reap the benefits.

'Be the person you want to be with.'

Wishing you well.

I understand completely. I had to go through the same thing several years ago and it was an adjustment for me. I wanted companionship, attention and someone to notice me. I too went about it incorrectly. I realized that I needed time to be alone, take a look at what I needed instead of what I wanted and knew the loneliness was going to be part of the healing process. It was difficult at first but I knew I would get better and life was going to be different. If my husband couldn't treat me the way I deserved then I would treat myself the way I wanted to be treated. I had to love and respect myself if I wanted others to do the same.
I eventually joined a ladies recovery group, I could vent and rant about the hurt, pain, anger and feelings of guilt I had. It helped tremendously and I was able to release a lot of pent up pain. Can you join a ladies group to talk about your feelings? They will understand and be able to offer support. Take up a hobby, join a club, go to the library, and my favorite past time is the gym. One can really vent the anger, frustrations and pent up feelings when slamming those huge ropes on the floor, believe me, I did it and it felt good to let out the junk!!!!!
You still need time to grieve, divorce is like a death, wondering the what if's and why's and what could have been done differently. Give yourself time to heal and focus on your happiness. You are worthy of a life of happiness and someone who will treat you the way want to be treated. I like what Lenoire said about being the person you want to be with, be the one you would like to date.
In the meantime, reflect and heal. You will get there a day at a time. Blessings to you in your journey. I am praying for you and healing to come to your heart.
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'Be the person you want to be with.' Wow. I like that.

Once thing I've done to "dip" my feet in, not romantically because that is the LAST thing I want right now, honestly, is making an effort with the cashier at Walgreen's, Winn Dixie. The people I meet randomly. I now know where one of them goes to college and that he's had car trouble recently. That helps a little, little connections to people.

Thank you! You guys make me feel like I'm not alone. :) I know it's going to be a hard journey, and it's going to feel like it may never end. I know that no matter how much I long for a companion I have to learn to be comfortable with myself and love myself! And you are right Lenore, I need to be the person I want to be with! ❤️