Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Greetings Everyone,
I'm new on here. My divorce was just finalized yesterday. Although we had been separated since Nov 2016, the reality set in once I left the courthouse. I've never been through a divorce and the pain is sometimes unbearable. I'll spare everyone the details but in a nutshell we just grew apart and are very different people. We had been in couples counseling for about 6 months. I thought we were making progress. She thought otherwise and asked for a divorce. No kids involved by the way. I guess what I'm looking for is some guidance in terms of how long I expect to feel down like this. What have some of you done to help deal with the pain of losing someone you still love and care about?
Thanks.
Start doing stuff for yourself and actively participate in social events, exercise, etc. reconnect with old friends.
Soon, you will replace looking backwards with looking forwards.
together to help me cope and deal with all the
grief.
The grief can be pretty intense and with it Comes
Many uncomfortable feelings and emotions. That
you need to face, move thru and let go Of when
you are ready.
Exercise helps with the stress levels and getting
Tired out. Its the emotional part that needs to Be
processed. Thats the hard part and one we often
Have no control over how we feel.
Sorry MC didn't work, that takes both people being
Willing and honest, i went total no contact and moved
After my divorce was final and decree in place.
Getting a divorce is a huge loss and so much changes
In all your relationships that were mutual. You feel like
You were set adrift and uncertain about your whole life
and Where do you go from here? You take it one day
To a time and do the best you can while grieving and
Figuring yourself out, HUGS
So, the other posters' advice seem wise. Take time for yourself and consider the support systems you have and would like to have! Reach out! What would be wise, practical first steps for you?
Divorce Care and Christian counseling were good options for me. Praying for your continued healing and that you choose good options for you!
It's all really going to depend upon very personal factors, personal to you. It's not easy at all, and do as the others suggest - reach out to others, put the focus on your, do healthy things for yourself. You'll get there eventually. Being brutally honest with yourself about the realities of your life and the whys and how of where you are can help jump start the grieving process. Be honest with yourself and your own feelings.
Go by it. I do think it takes 3 years to normalize
Though After the divorce is finalized.
In three years, you should not care what your
ex is doing or not doing, Leading your own life
and having your own Goals and agenda. In a new
relationship or not. The only concern About your
ex is if it effects the children.
Its recommended you get to know yourself again
As a single person and be comfortable in your own
Skin. Many of us lost our identity while married And
had not been alone for years. I still felt married Until
i finally detached from him 18 months post divorce.
Grieving is a time to heal, change and grow while
You are going thru the process. The transition phase
After the divorce is not easy one either, some will
Still go to therapy, it all takes time and it is a process.
The feelings and emotions during and post divorce
Are deep and need to be moved thru, faced and then
Hopefully let go of. Betrayal can take you a long time
to Move thru, HUGS