Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I hope I am in the right place. I see a lot of you were married and in really long term relationships, but I am having a really hard time coping with a break up or I guess you would call it that To try to make a long story short. About a year ago I started dating my yoga teacher. Yoga is a big passion of mine and he is someone who I've known for a little over 2 years. I did not know he was interested in me like that and I was apprehensive at first about dating him b/c he was my teacher, but even thought I had concerns we dated and had a great time. There was nothing bad about the relationship at all. Not until we went on a trip with our yoga group (students and teachers) and I noticed him spending a lot of time with another girl. Well low and behold he has quit talking to me and is seeing her. He never said anything to me about it at all and I am taking it pretty hard. It is extremely hard for me to not constantly compare myself to her. The worst part is she is 24 years old and he is 41 so quite a big age difference. I am 34. This has really hit me hard and I don't know how I will ever recover. It has not only hurt my self esteem in a huge way, but also my yoga practice. I have a hard time going to the studio now without being reminded of him. Any advice or if anyone can relate at all I would love to hear from you. I feel like all of my close friends and family who know about this are sick of hearing about it and I don't really have anyone else to talk to.
Thanks for reading.
Thanks for reading.
Three thoughts for you: (1) talk to a therapist about this. It can be too easy to confuse your friends and family for therapy. Bad enough they are sick of hearing about it, but apparently talking to them doesn't even seem to help. (2) Pardon my French, but your yoga instructor is kind of an asshole. Sleeps with his students? Doesnt even tell you when he dumps you for another student?? Narcissistic much, Pal? (3) you sound like a very nice and trusting soul - who also happens to be in good shape and flexible. You can do SOOO much better than this walking cliche of a jackass. There must be a million and six yoga instructors out there. How 'bout YOU dump this loser for a more considerate and ethical instructor, who can respect appropriate boundaries?