I feel your pain. My woman who we were together for 8 years did pretty much the same thing. She left me, but at first I didnt know about the cheating. She had the nerve to tell me that I needed to prove to her and show her things that would make her consider taking me back. Then when I found out the truth, now Im the bad guy and she is keeping my son from me. So I truly empathize with the unbearable pain I know you must feel.

Yeah it is very painful , but not as bad as a year ago. The funny thing is this. I asked him if he wanted a divorce, so he could go on with his life. He said no, so he could leave me in a house where I had to leave because I couldn't pay the bills, and walk away so I would never see him again. I found proof he was have an affair by letters the person sent him. I was faithful to him for every year since we met, no other man but him. I was doing everything that I though a good wife should do, but in the end he threw me away in the worst kind of way. I'm still trying to get my life back on track.
Spouses that cheat only are out to serve their selfishness. They will tell someone they've hurt badly anything. I was silly to think he truely loved me, and he probably was cheating for years.

Remember a selfish individual only thinks of themselves. When they're doing wrong that individual needs to justify it by blaming the on they hurt the most. I came to me husband ,and asked him about his cheating. He told me that I was crazy, that's nothing was wrong, and then he drops me off at home, to never return. It was so painful , it took me to a dark place. I learned he wasn't worth my two years of crying daily, or feeling like my heart was going to explode.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I went through my divorce in 2013, and I felt forced to leave. My ex had already made so many devastating decisions and began to be outright harmful...telling our family and friends lies about me and our marriage to attempt to hurt me further. So believe me when I say I understand. It does get better though...and I know I wouldn't have made it through without God and my family/friends. Do you have people around you that you can turn to for support?

I had to lean on my oldest child, and my sister. Other than that no one. He left me when I was very ill too. I know about the lies a man tells to show his wife in a bad light. I clearly could relate to that. When I was feeling pain in body around my liver, he said don't call him unless I'm dying. Before he ran away , he would refuse to talk to me, and not come home. He acted like a demon, being so hateful to someone that love him dearly.

My husband of 22 years has been having an affair since March. He told me while we were on vacation. Since we returned he has not been living at the house. We have two daughters, the oldest has just left for college. I'm here with my 16 year old daughter. He won't talk about what he plans to do. He says he loves me but then he is spending the holiday weekend away with his girlfriend. The pain is unbearable, Not sure what to do,

I know I hit my breaking point, when my sister found me just screaming over and over from the agony. She came to me crying and hold onto me. These individuals aren't sensitive to the pain they inflict on others. Even though I made a small bit of progress, I will tell you each day gets manageable.
We put all of the year into them, and than they throw us away like we are nothing.