Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Woke up this morning with the same resolve I went to sleep with! I woke up at 3:30am but I suppose that will eventually get better. I am not nieve to think there won't be bad days, but the since of clarity and release of my guilt has been eye opening. She needs to be begging me for forgiveness not the other way around. I acknowledged my flaws and asked for forgiveness. That is all I can do. The interaction between everyone on this forum is invaluable. So many people in so many different states of mind has given me so much perspective. Thank you for listening.
can do. Divorce care.org helps a lot. Hope
your counseling can start soon.
We all played our parts with the breakdown
Of the marriage. Cheating is not the answer
To fixing the problems. You can only fix yourself
and help yourself Get better. Thats all any of
Us can do.
The marriage Will make it or it wont. Mine didnt
he was checked out and Long gone. That left the
financial settlement and decree to cope with.
He had no remorse or concern, when they check
Out the door to your marriage and life is closed
Not to be opened up. HUGS
You either work through things or divorce, not the self serving, what's easier and more convenient for me bullshit so many seem to pull. The dishonesty, cover ups and blame shifting are rampant.
I would have given my ex-husband a divorce with no problem had he been honest. I wasn't a desperate woman.
He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, and unfair financially.
So we ended up in court for three years.
I "won". Why another woman would want a man who lied to and cheated on his wife of 24 years, I still can't figure out.
Speaks volumes about the both of them.
I have to believe at this point that there's a good reason God/the Universe took him out of my life, even if I can't see it right now.
Clearday, great points. My ex wife of 24 years and I had problems yes, but her solution was cheating and moving in with our daughter's boyfriend's father. This loon had 4 kids with 4 different women and at one time 2 of them were giving birth at the hospital to his kids at the same time. We used to joke about it, but the jokes on me as she's living with him now...oh well they truly deserve each other. According to our daughter she still isn't working, been out of work for over 2 years...ummm no thanks. I had to pay enough of her bills when she worked part time, the fact he has to support her now is A-OK with me :)
As much hurt as all this has caused me, its probably a blessing in disguise.
I chose to ignore some major character defects to have the sense of security I thought I had in that marriage.
If she wants a man whos capable of doing what he did, she can have him and good riddance.
Anywhooos bravo to you for sticking to your guns yea we may hurt & cry & be in pain & we are definitely not perfect but there comes a point when enough is enough. We deserve to be loved and treated with respect.
I would definitely try melatonin to get some sleep.