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ok, so I took to watching this new tv show "The New Adventure of the Old Christine" starring Julia Luis Dreyfuss and a few other people whose names I can't remember. Anyway Julia is Christine Campbell who is divorced and her ex is dating a gal who is also called Christine. Hence part of the big joke of the show. If you wanna watching something funny, Netflix that one (yeah, the word "netflix" is being used as a verb in this paragraph)
i can definitely relate to this show as Julia is jealous of the fact her ex is dating the "new" Christine. But she doesn't want to be back together with her ex and so she is constantly jealous of his new relationship while not wanting him back. I can understand that feeling as I have the same feelings toward my ex. But would I want her back? probably not. I don't think I could ever trust her again.
so after a few episodes her ex is consoling her in the car and they accidently kiss and this breaks up the relationship between Julia's ex and the "new" Christine. However, not finding any feelings there, the two break up and Julia's ex gets back together with "new" Christine. And that's where I am in the show right now.
Thankfully I don't live in a complicated relationship like this and I can understand the cordiality between ex wife and ex husband. my ex and I have it as well although we don't call each other on the phone like Julia and her ex do (always before bed time). But I can understand the mixed feelings. For instance, I would enjoy talking to her at length still, but I would not want her at a birthday gathering with friends. I feel she doesn't belong there.
But, being the person who likes to get in other's skulls, I can psychologically diagnose Julia as one who feels guilty about the breakup. She consistently talks about how closer her ex and her are now than they were before - as if to assuage her guilt by repeating that over and over.
dunno how my ex feels about the guilt aspect. She obvioulsy has no interest in discussing how she feels about anything and since she's the one who left I have nothing to feel guilty about.
i can definitely relate to this show as Julia is jealous of the fact her ex is dating the "new" Christine. But she doesn't want to be back together with her ex and so she is constantly jealous of his new relationship while not wanting him back. I can understand that feeling as I have the same feelings toward my ex. But would I want her back? probably not. I don't think I could ever trust her again.
so after a few episodes her ex is consoling her in the car and they accidently kiss and this breaks up the relationship between Julia's ex and the "new" Christine. However, not finding any feelings there, the two break up and Julia's ex gets back together with "new" Christine. And that's where I am in the show right now.
Thankfully I don't live in a complicated relationship like this and I can understand the cordiality between ex wife and ex husband. my ex and I have it as well although we don't call each other on the phone like Julia and her ex do (always before bed time). But I can understand the mixed feelings. For instance, I would enjoy talking to her at length still, but I would not want her at a birthday gathering with friends. I feel she doesn't belong there.
But, being the person who likes to get in other's skulls, I can psychologically diagnose Julia as one who feels guilty about the breakup. She consistently talks about how closer her ex and her are now than they were before - as if to assuage her guilt by repeating that over and over.
dunno how my ex feels about the guilt aspect. She obvioulsy has no interest in discussing how she feels about anything and since she's the one who left I have nothing to feel guilty about.
I could never have a relationship with an EX if she truly becomes an EX. For me, what's the point? I suppose if one has kids, it's a little different because the couple would still need to discuss parenting issues, but if the couple never had kids, I don't see how the couple could stay friends after a divorce.
There is a male version of this show called: Gary Unmarried. It lasted two seasons--was also on CBS. It's about Gary and his divorced wife maintaining a friendship even after a divorce.
I think these TV relationships/friendships are completely contrived. I can understand still being friends before the divorce is final--at least for one party who may still want to work things out--but once the papers are signed and the couple are truly EX's then I can't see how one can continue being friends with the other. Why get a divorce in the first place?
The idea of two people being able to be friends but not able to be a married couple is a bit contrived imo, especially if they were indeed married at some point. I can understand friends who can't marry because one party is not romantically interested in the other and so they remain friends--that I can understand. But once there is a marriage between friends, then a subsequent divorce, and they continue to be friends after the divorce, that just seems contrived and unbelievable to me.
My first marriage of 10 years, once we divorced, we never kept in touch. I don't even know if she's now married or not. I'm not her enemy, but we're not friends.
I also don't think I could ever see myself being in a relationship with a man that was always running to his EX with everything either. Getting along good for the sake of the children is great, being best friends with each other after the marriage is over and you are with someone else? Too much for me that's for sure.