Well, it's been a number of years since I've been on and prob 6 or 7 years since I have joined this site and I never thought I would be on again. I have been dating someone since my divorce for a number of years...two years ago we broke up briefly (now mind you he is still technically married and legally separated for 8 years), then we came back to each other and everything was good until a few weeks ago. His stbx wants to sell their house, which needs extensive work and yardwork, and move south. Well he's been going up there to help her for the last few weekends and he has changed dramatically...distant, cold, snappy at me, won't look at me or touch me unless I make the move to say the least, all since they started "talking" and reminiscing about the kids (they have none together and had them by different people but raised them together). He lives with me and his job is here and I truly believe he doesn't want to be here no matter what he says to me. Actions speak volumes. You don't go telling someone you love them one min, then change your tune the next. I've been through this before with him the last time, when they started talking. I've been through this with my exH when he was cheating on me. Inside I know what I need to do, but it's difficult when you are in the thick of it. I hate to assume something and assume something is going on but it's obvious he's conflicted in some way. I just need to take the confict away and be the bad guy, it seems. I have tried to talk to him and he won't open up and says "some things are better left unsaid" after spitting out something that I couldn't even respond to or know how to answer. It's clear he doesn't want to hurt me and I see it in his face. Does he love me? Yes, I do believe that and I keep saying I don't know what to do. What I think I mean to say is I don't know how to handle it or approach it or what to do bc in the end there is going to be two people, plus my children that are extremely hurt.
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