Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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heartbrok3n 03/27/2018

Everything makes me thing of him. The crying comes in waves first it's gone and then it is back. I feel so helpless. I miss him so much, and the thought of never seeing him again breaks my heart. He was my best friend, I keep thinking about if we will ever cross paths again, when i know i just need to move on and focus on my healing. All I can think about is how he is doing and what is going through his head. I wish that there was some magic cure for break ups and some date that i could have in my head that would be the day i feel no pain anymore. Since the break up is still so fresh I feel as though the end is nowhere near, and all i can think about is all of the good memories and how I dont want them to be over. Anyone feeling the same? I know he wants to be friends, but it is way too soon and being friends we will just end up back in a relationship. how do you know when it is okay to be friends again? Is it ever okay to be friends with someone you saw a future with? How soon is too soon to reach out? weeks? months? years?

Treh 03/27/2018

I'm in the exact same boat. I feel what you feel. Although I don't want to move on. If you know that you need to move on that's a great step. I've cried everyday since she left me so I know the heart break. I'm not over it a bit but I have found that forcing myself to smile has helped. Watch something that makes you laugh. Something that makes you forget for even a sec that things suck. Listen to music that feels good. Try turning the pain you feel into fixing you anyway you can. If you need to talk to ahead and message me. It feels good to talk about everything with someone who has no connection, try and find someone you can release everything to or it will build up on you. Stay strong, as long as you want to be happy you will be someday.

heartbrok3n 03/27/2018

Thank you, I really appreciate your kind words. I know that if I don't move on ill just be stuck waiting around for something that probably will never happen. There is still a part of me that wishes he will run back and beg me to forgive him. The day goes by in waves, sometimes I am going about my day and all a sudden a wave of sadness hits me. I have reached out to my friends but sometimes I just feel like a broken record that just keeps repeating herself. I dated him for 7 years it is just so hard to go cold turkey and almost unbearable to imagine I will Never see him or talk to him again

Turtle51 03/27/2018

I understand completely how u feel. As I read, it felt as If I wrote what u were saying. I feel empty and helpless. The difference is, he wanted this and I didn't. I didn't cheat ,but I have held a lot anger in about things with us and it all came out while on vacation and I hit him. He's tired of our issues and says he doesn't want it anymore. We have been together since 1986 and were married 23 years. I moved Into an apartment 30 minutes from our home, left him, my dog and our son at his request. I fight every minute not to call him. I'm sorry your dealing with this. I'm here to listen if u need someone. I'm in the same boat with u dear.

growthhurts 03/28/2018

I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad. :( I understand that feeling. 7 years is a long time to be with someone! and reading the other posts makes me remember how difficult and painful it is to want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you, at least at that time. I agree with a lot of what Treh said. It helps when we are hurting to reach out and try to help others. It can make us feel better. Focus on yourself. Be with others and try to have some fun. Do something you've always wanted to do. Praying also helps me when I feel hopeless. Sometimes the ones we love DO come back but not usually when we are wallowing in pain. If they see us strong and bettering ourselves and ok without them, it can be appealing. But we can't count on that. Be strong for yourself. Hope this helps. (((Hugs)))

heartbrok3n 03/29/2018

Thank you I really appreciate the comments it makes the biggest difference, you guys are the best!

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