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Samuel2891
Samuel2891

So idk what im writeing here... ok so its been a month ive been on emotional rooler coaster with my wife we are seperated. I feel like she seeing someone else but she tells me is not. The fact that it doesnt haunt me in my gut i feel she is not but idk her actions tell me otherwise.. but who cares bout that. I know are relationship hasnt been all roses and wine. Im in love with her. I know she loves me even if she dont say it. I know we can be happy again my some steps we can take... ive been pushing towards divorce by pushing her for answers saying there another guy blowing her up etc im not that strong as u can tell... so we had dicussion on divorce i actually filled the papers out and today when i saw her to give her some stuff and to see my kids.... i asked her if divorce really what she wants in her txt msg the other day it was. But today was idk i simply told her i dont want the divorce and i want to start over fresh with you and kids.. she also said im not in a hurry to divorce you i just wang to make sure the kids are getting what they need which i will do no doubt. She also mentioned that it makes her sick that i say about another guy which i know its wrong and she broke out with acne all over her face she showed me which i know she is stressed she said im fine one minuete then pushy angry the next minuete which i can see i told her that just a defensive things i dont mean to come off that way im sorry. Then i told her i know we can be happy again like we were and i want to start over fresh with you. She stated she was thinking about that right now and just wants to see me act normal not happy one minuete mad angry pushy etc next minuete i know i need to control my emotions im scared hurt nervous confused. As i dont want to lose her. Im getting better tho. Today she also took pictures of me and the kids with her phone could u know why she did that for? Someone who states there not in love with u no more take picture of you and the kids to have. Also she was bringing up unrelvant things like her truck was haveing problems etc but when it iver the ohone she very distint from me barley txtes me etc. But why in person does she repond better towrads me. As i was getting in my truck i noticed she was looking at me while i walked away but as soon as i turned to look at them she turned her head so fast.. why is she like that for???

Alone
Alone
Work on improving yourself and become a better, strong man. Get some outside help with a counselor or support group. Whatever your flaws, work on them. Become a better person and you will feel better about yourself and possibly be in a position to repair your marriage.
Samuel2891
Samuel2891
Yes you right im trying everyday.... to become a better person for the mistakes i have made... this is her way of saying. . This is my way or highway i understand that i should be no one door mat and i shouldnt be a push over etc and i should do get down to what she wants. As of the mistakes that i made. If i just be paitent anx show her i do love her and take care of my kids. It will show her i do care and i do love her in time earn her trust back etc then we can go from there... it didnt break over night and i cant fix it over night..
helpmymarriage
helpmymarriage
I wish my wife would give me a glimmer of hope. At least your wife seems like there is a chance. Always think before you speak! Think to yourself, I must say things with love and respect! If you say angry, mean, accusatory things, you will drive her away and you can't take those words back! Those words stay in her mind! Stop now if you want to save your marriage. It took me too long to learn that and the damage has been done. Good luck and stay strong and positive!
Samuel2891
Samuel2891
Yes very true my damage has been done to and i will stay positive for my kids i know i can not control her or make her love me i can try my hardest to make her fall in love with me again and i can fix my self so those mistakes dont come up.. yes in her action there seems to be a glimmer of hope for me and i will grab it and run with it.. im not saying we will get back togther and fix are marriage either to be all honest with you i dont really want to fix are marriage. I want to start over from new wipe slate clean and go from there. I knownit.posibale cuz she has told me she wated that but she wants me to find my self and act normal for awhile mabey this we will be good for both me and her to live a little etc im not doing much living right now to be honest with u lol... in time and furture we qill see what happens.. if i have to let go atleast im stronger day by day and if i get another chance i will prove to her day by day so wvwn if i have to let go right now doesnt mean there will not be a furture that we could grow off of.. we will always share a bond with the kids and we will always love each other no matter what she was my fiest ever love and i was her first ever love so ingot that on my side as well..