Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I had nightmares all night, emotional dreams. When I woke up I called my ex so that I could speak to my son. He seemed happy, but she was sounding miserable. She kept crying and asking why I was "doing this to them." I kept telling her it was because of her abuse, plain and simple. Then I just popped off and asked if she was seeing someone else! I have stated on this forum that I feel numb towoards her, have no feelings except a new sense of freedom, So why am I feeling this jealousy that she might get with someone else? Why should I care? I never cheated on her. Maybe its the fact that if she gets with someone else she'll treat them better? Is that likely when she as a lifelong history of abusive behavior towards men? Thanks for any advice.
Side note: we often romanticize the good times and forget the bad as we are healing
Yes bobbyu, part of it is that it's hard to think of your ex treating someone else better than they did to you. The other thing she said, It's the feeling of being rejected. no one wants to feel rejected. It's human nature. Even if we don't want them anymore, the feeling of them not wanting us, is still there and will take time to get past. I hate it when I see my husband, talking with other woman, and my quills go up. I don't like listening to him talk to anyone really. He talks to everyone better than he talks to me. He's not 'abusive" per say, but not talking, sharing, caring, or having an interest in your spouse does take it's toll on a person. I would love it if my husband had changed too. But I think now, it would be to little to late. Hang in there bobbyu, your not alone