Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Aquamarine 08/21/2016

Hi, I've never done this before in my life, but I feel so devastated, I need someone to talk to and that has never been easy for me.

I've been in a relationship for almost seven years and I love this man like I have never loved no one. Two weeks ago I found out he's been seen another woman and texting and talking to her constantly, that day my life crumbled before my eyes, when I confronted him he said he still loves me and that all he needs is time, that we don't know what life will bring for us but mean while he really wants to get to know the other woman he's seen. But every time I see him he wants to hug me, kiss me, he says I am a very beautiful woman and that he loves me, I feel like my heart is breaking. Oh my God I feel so lost and in so much pain I can't function. It's been two weeks that I can't eat well, can't sleep, I was every day at the gym but now I just can't. Please help me!

MTGrl 08/21/2016

I'm sorry u r hurting. I am too..but I feel like I should and I want contribute because others have supported me. All I can say is that it will get better and easier with time. It doesn't seem like it will..but it will. I keep telling myself that..That's all I have to hold onto right now.

Minidogs2 08/21/2016

Sorry you're suffering. Sounds like you are depressed due to feeling powerless and rejected. Why not put yourself first and tell him to choose you or her? Or tell him to take a hike. Your choice, not his. You are worth his exclusive attention. Put your energy back into the gym and whatever you choose. Your energy is being drained by holding in your emotions. What exactly are you feeling?

mirandac 08/21/2016

I would go to therapy to help you Deal with your
emotions and feelings. A therapist Can help steer
you and validate you. This is a long Hard journey.

My ex did the GF with texting he did not try To play
nice with me though. We were not Yet Divorced.

I am sorry for your pain and hurt and for him Being
cruel and mean a hole. It will not get Better only
worse the longer it goes on for You.

Go NO CONTACT ASAP take Your power back.

This is a sick game he is Playing, he just got caught
and is trying for the spin And to keep you hooked.
HUGS

Aquamarine 08/21/2016

Thank you all (-: bit47 your words are exactly what has been in my mind and I know I have to be strong, it's just to hard, and since I work from home I don't know a lot of people nor go out very often. Thank you!! I've never been a week woman but this has knocked me off my feet.

kbbcoop77 08/21/2016

He's cheating on you, don't accept that BS..no one deserves that. 7 years, 70 years..7 minutes...doesn't matter, I would dump him or you're in for more and more years of pain.

utterpain 08/21/2016

As others have said, he's a selfish user setting you up for more pain down the road. I'd tell him to get lost. It might snap him into coming back, it might not, but what he is currently doing is emotionally abusive and extremely unfair to you.

Aquamarine 08/21/2016

Never thought I'd be put in this situation and it really sucks....how can someone cause so much pain to someone they once loved.

Anonymous81 08/21/2016

This was me. I got on some anxiety meds that help me to function. This is so how I felt but I never once in the seven years with my husband got your beautiful or anything of the sort. This separation has been almost 8 months for me and my life is still in a downward spiral. I just joined as well in hopes I can find others who understand and know what and how to go about being a victor and not a victim

NicoleWilliams 08/21/2016

I am so sorry to hear this, Aquamarine. You’re definitely hurting, and I can understand how overwhelming this can be for you. Like most of them have mentioned, it is better for you to let go of him. I know it’s easier said than done but it’s for your good at the end of the day. I will be praying for you and I really hope you will feel better soon. And, remember that you have tremendous worth in the sight of God! Cheer up.

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