Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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MarkFarks 07/22/2014

Hey, I tend not to write that many posts since I don't tend to cause any drama with my ex's. This time I wasn't cheated on or anything bad, she just decided to end things but that doesn't seem to make things better really.
I have blocked her from all forms of communication, but well.. I just really really want to tell her I miss her or something. I guess I just feel really lonely right now and could do with some encouragement.

refurb 07/22/2014

Feeling lonely is stark, telling the ex that you miss her is pointless,
Talk to a friend or family member that you can open up to.

Being alone is not stark, being alone give you time to examine your character, if you are not someone to be alone with now is the time to change that, it isn't about being interesting, funny or the dos Equis guy, it is about having values with which you live by and regardless of the situation that you don't have to hide, being alone as that person is not lonely

MarkFarks 07/22/2014

Thanks, I know that. I have been good and completely cut off contact, it just sucks when you miss someone a lot. Also I'm kind of going through some life changes (moving to another country etc).
I guess it's normal to feel a little anxious. Some days are just worse than others.

Somerdad34 07/22/2014

feeling lonely is one of the hardest part. What you need to do is find soemthing to keep you occupied. I have joined a meetup group, goto meetup.com to find one in your area. It is not a dating site, its a way for you to get out and meet new people. I also watch a lot of tv and rented dvds. just keep busy right now. the feeling is still there but you are not thinking about it.
I have the kids twice a week and every other weekend, so I have alot of lonely nites.

milliejay 07/22/2014

I know how you feel - it's tough - that missing them stage sux - and it's very tempting to reach out - I been there. I say, don't do it. It will just make you feel worst later. It would bring me more anxiety to reach out to him than the anxiety of missing him. Try to find ways to keep your mind busy - I used to read a lot and go hiking. Idle time was my worst enemy and night time also.

Good luck. Hang in there - it gets better.

panther99 07/22/2014

The missing stage is so hard... who you used to reach out to for comfort is no longer there..and you have to find something to replace that connection and keep your mind busy. Reaching out to this forum is great..journaling..movies..a great book..a walk or run.

It is so tempting to reach out, as Millie said but try not to. You don't want to slide back awards in your healing. I'm restraing myself almost minute to minute. It's tough but then all of sudden it's easier..it may not last but sooner or later those moments where you don't feel such a pull to the past but feel invigorated by the New life you see emerging will start to become more and more abundant.

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