tynee, it could be that this person is dead to you and you are trying to help him to the afterlife. This way you deal with him is something in you that is sensitive or naturally tender-hearted. And I don't feel that you are stepping backward by trying to help this "jumper." Well, it's not like you have any power to change him either; the thing is that he gets in your head and what you think to do is something that's right, and you do it, only now it appears as a bad habit instead of what was once well-meaning merciful behavior in you. I can see from what you describe that you are feeling like a doormat. Because in your sensitive mind, this way is really like stepping up to a brave challenge under normal circumstances. No doubt you learn something about yourself that strengthens you, and best is that you are not the one dying into darkness - he is out of the light.

Have you ever driven down a dark road and the wheel rolled over something small in the road? You get out to check over the situation and find out that what you injured is hurt. The natural reaction is to reach out and help, yet it is wild and it turns on you for an attack, even while battling deep pain. See what I mean? It really is no great joy for this guy to be alive. And I'm not implying that death would be better for him. I am just attempting to help you see that you are self-sacrificing for him, and this is what holy people do out of compassion for the weak. No, you are stepping forward not backing up. However, God will not be upset with you for learning to grow out of helping him. He has to learn that it is time for you to stop being the central turn-to person in times of his drama. You deserve better.

Remiah you have no idea how your reply just touched my heart and made me feel human for being there for someone that I love and someone that I thought loved me. Things are getting better each day although it hurts me that he can just move on to find someone else and I am alone after he has used me. But I know that him being out of my life is the best staying out so many wonderful things are happening to me in my life and I am progressing getting out of debt and doing all the things that I wanted to do while he was here. So it is a blessing.

Oh, how sweet your words are and I'm happy that you are progressing out of debt. Doing what you deserve is always best for a happy and safe life. It is a blessing for sure that you are thinking out your life so carefully, and I hope for you to keep hold of your power; you are a wonderful person!

Many caring hugs to you today, tynee!