Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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COUGARJG 08/01/2010

My wife and I had been married for 13 years about a year ago she started working at a casino, she met someone else about 2 1/2 months ago, and asked for a divorce, I quickly gave her this divorce because had found love letters and knew there was someone else. She basicly said "you can have the house the kids, I just want out." I have been in a state of shock ever since. Advice on how to move on would be greatly apreciated.

deleted_user 08/01/2010

First go to court and get custody of the kids.

COUGARJG 08/01/2010

we have already did the court thing and I have done pretty well, but cannot get over this whole thing.

deleted_user 08/01/2010

That is going to just take time.

GeocacherNY 08/01/2010

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GeocacherNY 08/01/2010

but Welcome to DS, sorry ya gotta be here.

We were over 23 years when our split happened, 1631 days ago

totallychaotic247 08/01/2010

I'm sorry you have to be here, but glad you found us. You will find a ton of support, advice, and even a whole bunch of humor thrown in. There are people at all different stages of the process. Some of us have been here for ever, others are new and still have the pain to deal with. Ask questions, observe, read and share as much as you are comfortable with. Take what advice suits you, and leave the rest. It is a long, hard road, but you will get through it. We will be here to help. Big hugs to you and I'm sorry for your pain.

Rman 08/01/2010

I have heard this similar story many times...I'm sorry. It's sad...I guess you just have to be both parents for a while...It's not forever, just until your kids get adjusted...sorry...

COUGARJG 08/01/2010

Thank you for all your support I wish nI would have found this site 2 months ago.

deleted_user 08/01/2010

this is horrible....I can't believe she just up and walked away like that....leaving her children behind. Do you have full custody? Is she in touch with the kids at all?

With children it can get tricky, so I wasn't sure if she is still in their lives or not. If not...my best piece of advice is to establish NO CONTACT... however, if she still has visitation with the kids, this advice would then change to limited contact and only about the kids.

Rebuilding is painful....and it really does take time. Right now you need to focus on you and the kids and building a new start for yourself....try not to spend too much time looking in the past, but rather think of things you can be doing to create a beautiful new future. Get involved in activities that boosts your self esteem (ie; volunteering is a great way to do that)...and above everything else...be kind to yourself. Healing from something like this is truly going to take time and its going to be a roller coaster ride from hell.... You coming here to DS was a good thing and I hope you will find being a part of our forum a tremendous support as you go through this difficult journey

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