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So for the past few days I have been feeling just a little bit better about myself. I have been doing things for myself and trying my best to feel good about the image in the mirror. While participating in codependent Behavior I gave him a ride and as soon as I got back around him I noticed that I instantly felt ugly I felt myself afraid to look at him purposely looking the other way hoping that he would not look at me because I felt ugly and fat as soon as I saw him. What really bothers me is that I really care what he thinks and I don't even know why. But now he wants to talk about being back together because he hates where he lives but never mentions love because I know it's not about love. I don't know maybe I should just stay away from him if being in his presence is just going to make me feel ashamed of who I am and I look at him and I think of course you never be lonely or of course he will find someone before me because look at him he looks nice. I hate my shallow way of thinking but it's all that I know you have always made me feel ugly and not good enough it's hard to try and change that pattern when you just continuously hear those voices.
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Go out of the house and see the other people who are married and happy. Identify whether they're ugly or not.
I think you'll find everyone's ugly - or beautiful depending on your point of view. But mostly, they're ugly. :D You are no uglier.
If this guy makes you feel inadequate ditch him. Find a guy who makes you feel important. Why would you hang out with a guy who causes you to feel you failed at life? Go find someone lower on the pecking order who thinks you are the best thing that ever happened to him.
don't struggle for life to live up to someone. That is work.
and don't have a relationship with someone who hasn't slain a few dragons, murdered a few orks, climbed a few glass mountains for you. The price you put on yourself is the value you will give yourself. So add a zero or two. :)
I can't believe you are even giving him ride, much less entertaining the idea of taking him back. Something is very wrong and until you figure out what that is and correct it, you will never be free of men who mentally abuse you. You're worth more than all of the put together. Understand that and own your own body, mind and feelings. Never let another person make you feel less than!