Alright so I'm new here and this is the first post or anything that I have done but I'm hoping that somehow it will help. If you are reading this bear with me it may be kinda long. I am 27 years old and a full time college student about to finish bachelors degrees in both biology and psychology. I had been in a relationship with a man for almost 2 years. We had been living together and talking about marriage though I wanted to wait until I was at least done with my undergraduate degrees. Shortly before Thanksgiving we went over to my sister's house and she showed me my 14 year old niece's journal in which she had written that a couple of days before while my boyfriend at the time and I were babysitting he had kissed her and touched her sexually. He denied this at any time that I brought it up and repeatedly assured me that he was innocent. Children's services investigated and when he was to go in for a meeting with them I was waiting in the car and got a phone call that he was arrested. I heard nothing from him or anyone else for week to know what was going on, and only found out when a police officer came to my house to serve a subpoena that in the meeting he had admitted that the actions did take place and that was why he was arrested. I have gone to see him twice now the first time because I felt that I needed to talk to him and he just kept trying to convince me that he loves me and wanted me to give him a second chance because he says he is a good man who made a mistake (as if I could believe that and be dumb enough to trust him again) and the second time to get my cell phone from him because I had added him onto my plan and he told me that he had been selfish to ask me to wait and that he wanted me to move on and then two minutes later tell me that he hopes he hasn't lost me forever and that he won't ever look for someone else because he can't replace me. So now I am dealing with not only the pain of the end of a relationship but how his actions not only affected my niece but myself as well. Even though I know that it is illogical I feel that somehow I was not good enough for him and that I did something wrong to make him want to do these things. Anyway any advice people can give would be appreciated this is still a fairly recent situation and I am trying to figure out where to go from here, I have considered seeking counseling but don't know if I should or not yet. To anyone who has stuck through and read all of this thanks for being patient.