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My husband is with another woman

alpha525
alpha525

We have been married for 17 years. I am his 3rd marriage and the other 2 ended for infidelity and he has not been able to be faithful. 


The last thing he was doing marriage counseling, and now he is dating the therapist. I asked to move out but he does not move out and this is my house. I filed for divorce. He said he is looking for a place to move out, but I know is not true.  I have not family here and is very hard when he is not around. I need to end this but I don't know how, because I still love him, and my heart wants him home believing his lies, and my brain is telling how an idiot I am taking all this abuse and let it him to take advantage of me. The sooner I get out of this, the sooner I can start my new life. Please help me. 


MC117
MC117
I'm not going threw anything like that...but I am going threw a divorce sweetie you have to let him go if he can't be the man for or the man you need him to be let him go , you will indeed find someone that will treat you the way u deserve, but you have to let go so you can start working on yourself and building you back up ..tell his ass go live with her but you have to let him go so you can start your healing don't stay cause your heart wants to this time listen to your head not your heart
Yard_Eggs
Yard_Eggs
With assistance from your attorney, can you go forth the eviction? Probably messy, but it would get him out if YOUR home and get you on the path to recovery.
Osheana
Osheana
I agree 100% with MC117 Let Go and do it peacefully supporting yourself
while in this process-you can get counseling to help yourself through it.
Red Flags were there if his prior marriages got sacked because of infidelity.
Hugs, there is a rainbow down the road- but you have to get on the path,You
can either go on that path (letting go) kicking and screaming and causing
much unnecessary pain to yourself or you can go down the road embracing
the pain as a tool needed to purge out the past and cleanse you for your new
life, nurturing and self loving yourself along the way.Peace and positive vibes
sent your way.
cbgrace1980
cbgrace1980
I am so sorry you are going through this tough time. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I have gone through a messy divorce and thankfully I had a wonderful counselor that gave me the opportunity to express myself and figure out what I needed to do. If it's possible to save the marriage, which I always believe can be done, it might help for you both to see a counselor. Hang in there and things will get better!
alpha525
alpha525
I went to a counselor with him, and we just fight and fight. Then he lies to the counselor. On one occasion we have an appointment and the same day I have to travel for work, the therapist makes the appointment only for him. A few days after I returned from my trip I found by accident a credit card bill with a hotel charge the day before his appointment. I honestly at this point I don't think he will change. I don't think this is what he does, but that's who he is. I need help to go through the withdrawals, this is like an addiction and I can't do it by myself I need help but I don't know where to find it. I keep looking for his help. When I have a crisis, I call him and he answers every time and he calms me down. But I will never end the vicious circle. I need "a sponsor" that I can call and talk when I get that crisis. I try to control it but they are incredibly painful.