Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago.Id been seperated for 2 years and we met he made me feel so wanted again.He told me all the time he loved me,i was his soulmate etc.Then all of a sudden he changed said he still had feelings for his ex and would like us to keep in touch.I was totally deverstated.
Hes been calling and texting me daily sometimes more and says things like he misses me and he still has feelings for me.He has called me everyday for the last few days and at the end of the conversation calls me darling or babe.
Then yesterday he was off again tells me hes going away for a few days to get his head sorted and reverted back to being cold and calling me mate.Said he may call me today depending on when he gets there,if not he will over the next couple of days.
So when i got up this morning even though it hurts i told myself to try and use this week to consontrate on myself and try not to think about him.
Then he calls me and says he hasnt gone yet and dosent know when he is maybe tomorrow.Now for someone who yesterday coldnt wait to get away he seems to constantly change his mind about everything.
I know hes no good for me he just confuses me even more but i miss him so much .
Hes been calling and texting me daily sometimes more and says things like he misses me and he still has feelings for me.He has called me everyday for the last few days and at the end of the conversation calls me darling or babe.
Then yesterday he was off again tells me hes going away for a few days to get his head sorted and reverted back to being cold and calling me mate.Said he may call me today depending on when he gets there,if not he will over the next couple of days.
So when i got up this morning even though it hurts i told myself to try and use this week to consontrate on myself and try not to think about him.
Then he calls me and says he hasnt gone yet and dosent know when he is maybe tomorrow.Now for someone who yesterday coldnt wait to get away he seems to constantly change his mind about everything.
I know hes no good for me he just confuses me even more but i miss him so much .
This guy is, whether intentionally or not, playing horrible head games with you and playing with your emotions.
You need to cut off all contact with him. You really do.
You'll still miss him and still hurt for a while, but you won't be constantly feeling crazy.
From what you wrote he maybe texting/calling you when things are not progressing with the ex and then being distant when they are..
I would let it cool off with him and focus on you. He doesn't appear to know what he wants and it's not fair for him to keep you in limbo.
My husband did the exact same thing to me after I found out he has been having multiple affairs for the past 4 years and more kids. He spent months jerking me around. Telling me he wanted to work it out, then saying he wants OW instead. Finally, I kicked him out telling him that he is being disrespectful to me and until he is ready to commit fully to this marriage and cut off the OW he needs to not be here.
Sometimes you just have to be strong and take care of you. If he is not going to respect you and commit to you, then the relationship as it is today can't be what is best for you. Just my opinion and I know it is easier said than done.
He asked me for a divorce and I cried for almost a week straight, but now I feel so much better about myself, more confident and have my self respect back. Best thing I've done for myself in years.
My prayers are with you.