Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
after two years of non stop love for her she told me she doesn't care if we break up and sang at the image of us breaking up. I gave her everything for two years. We were our first everything. She's now a different person since she started college and I'm so lonely. She told me I'm pathetic excuse of a life and I am stupid, rude and my voice is shrill an annoying. When I call her beautiful she never tells me anything about me being handsome. She left me. I don't know what to do because it's happened before but I won her back. Please help...
I can hear the desperation in your words - investing so much time on a girl that often berates you when you both have a disagreement, and one who is ready to leave me when troubles arise. You have seen changes in her as she continues higher education at college.
One thing that interested me was when you said "you won her back." Which means she is continually open to a relationship with her - but on her own terms. It appears she would be immersed in her studies at the moment - which could be bringing stress into her life. Don't worry too much about her showing an "I don't care" attitude. Often this is a smoke screen and, because you won her before - she has the security you will want this relationship to continue. Name calling is often part of arguments as well - when at the heat of the moment, people say things they don't necessarily mean, or say things that reflect what they think of themselves.
When disagreeing, focus on the facts and try to ignore her insults about you. I am sure that she will return to you when she calms down. However, be prepared to understand that relying on a human being for your total happiness is not a good idea. If you are lonely, spend time with friends, take up a sport, or occupy yourself with an interest. Girls hate their men to be so clingy that they don't give them space to be - a girl who may study and wish to spend time with her other friends now and then. Keep persevering if you feel she is the right girl for you.