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Kairus 09/09/2017

My wonderful woman told me last night that she thinks we need a break.

I'm Monogamous and she's polyamorous.. She wants to date another partner and asked for my blessing. I couldn't say yes.... but it also took every ounce of me to say no because I want her happy...

But now she thinks a break is in store so she can decide if she made the right choice in being with a monogamous person..

I really need a lot of support and comfort. Maybe some advice..?

Please help...

sleepless1 09/09/2017

If your lifestyle should don't match up, then maybe you should find someone who shares your same beliefs. Easier said than done. I'm sure you love her and breakups are miserable. How much time do you have invested in the relationship? Did you know this going in?

Kairus 09/09/2017

I did know this... I tried allowing her to be polyamorous. And she tried being monoganous. We both love each other dearly... but either one of us is upset or we break up and we're both miserable.
1 year 2 month and 4 days together. Not long but still a ton of time invested.

Cora_Belle 09/09/2017

Dolly Parton said it best. "A fish and a bird might love each other dearly. But where are they going to live?"

In all honesty, this break-up appears to be the logical inevitability.

Kairus 09/09/2017

I can understand that.. it just seemed like things were going so well for so long...

Jamess 09/10/2017

I think you agree to a lot of things you really don't agree to deep inside :

" Never Change Your MindJust to Please a Woman, When you deny your deep truth to please your woman,everyone (including her) will feel your lack of authenticity. "

How could she be attracted to you if you don't give her the gift of your authentic selfishness. You have the "nice guy syndrome" : tell me what I must do for you to make you happy. Does this decision make her happy? And believe it or not, it's very frustrating and unattractive:

Women don't really want to be with a man who only wants to make them happy, they want to be with a man who they make happy :how many stories have you read about the 'nice guy' who worships his wife, but gets cheated on and left for another guy,in his opinion is a duochebag ( but not according to wife )

Don't live in her frame, ". . .she thinks a break is in store so she can decide if she made the right choice in being with a monogamous person", this is a shit test, don't change your mind to try and alter the outcome, tell her you love but you won't allow her to date that other guy, and you won't change your mind about it.

She is subconsiously testing whether the man she has now,is the best man she can get. If you are assertive and do the above, your relationship has higher chances of surviving. If you don't it will end and she will live you for the other guy.

Take my advice, I am good with women.

Finallyfreemyself 09/10/2017

If she has had thoughts of being with anyone other than you for any reason then she'll never be happy until she tries. If you want a woman that shares your desires then it's worth the investment to find one. There are many more women who want to please one man more than any other kind out there.
Stay true to yourself.

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