I could really use some emotional support right now. I realize people are going to tell me that I "dodged a bullet" with this one. I realize that our relationship may not have been healthy. Yet I still feel I have so many questions, most of which I know only time will answer.

My fiance and I have had a rough start. He was always short on money when we lived together and we did drink more than we should. I quit drinking weeks ago because I thought it would better our situation. He still drank every night, and while I know this doesn't make anything better, he did cut back on the amount.

My fiance was stressed, which of course caused stress in our relationship. He had broken off contact with his family for months, though last Monday his father emailed him to invite him to their Thanksgiving. I could tell this was on his mind. There was a lot on our minds. Since his job was seasonal, we planned to move temporarily to my family's cabin on Wednesday and that would have solved the money issue. We both talked about cutting back on drinking, I just decided to quit early to ease my stress with moving. I got my job to allow me to telecommute for the winter so my paycheck alone could support us until he found work.

The week before we were moving, my fiance had what I assumed was an emotional breakdown. He got so angry so easily and then got worse. He said things to me I had never heard before, and then he said some more. This went on for hours. At first I fought with him, I felt I had to explain myself, but he was so unreasonable that eventually I allowed him to blow off some steam. By morning, he was crying and apologizing for his actions and he felt he'd regret that night forever. I was hesitant, but I did forgive him. By Monday we were talking about our future and spending the holidays together. Though he was distant and I assumed this had something to do with his father contacting him after so many months. It was a general email and my fiance did not reply as far as I was aware.

The next day, Tuesday, he was cranky when he got home from work. He was unable to get a trailer for our move the next day. I thought this was bothering him but then he told me he wanted to break up! Of course I was upset, though we didn't argue very hard for very long. He left the apartment to call his father.

Hours later he comes home saying his family got him a hotel room where I wouldn't be able to find him. I didn't understand. I told him we could talk about this, he told me it was too late. I was hoping this would be another episode like Wednesday, but at the same time not because I don't want to live that way if it would continue.

Wednesday after work I saw that he had left everything in the apartment for me to move myself, I was of course upset and sent him a text asking what's going on. Later he sent me simple a text saying he loved me and would always remember what we had, though he'd like to talk about the apartment but also that he was too busy. I haven't heard from him since.

I went to my parents' that night (where we planned to stay for just a few days before heading to our new place) and was a wreck. I did attempt to call him on Thanksgiving, attempted to sound as calm and collected as possible, and told him I'd like to figure out what's happening and what I should do about his things. Still nothing.

He was close to my father, and my father was just as shocked not to hear anything from my fiance, so he tried calling on Friday. My father spoke to his, and it turns out my fiance said I was physically abusing him and that I owed him money! My fiance had punched a hole in my bathroom door when he had his emotional fit recently and he told his father that I did it, when previously my fiance had been so sorry about it and agreed to repair it!

I didn't want to cut my fiance off, but I was also informed that my fiance did not intend to pay for his cell phone (I am head of the family plan, so he is not legally obligated) so I had to halt the service. I'm sure he is incredibly angry with me now, but I didn't know what else to do.

I have left him alone since this, but it is killing me. I feel as if he made up a lie during an emotional moment to get back in good graces with his family, but it was such a great lie that he cannot come back from any of it. I cannot believe he left me with his things, the apartment, the rent (we were not able to reassign the apartment yet but have had a lot of interested people), the phone bill, and is leaving it all up to me.

If he dislikes how his family acts as much as he has said, I wonder how long it will take for him to become dissatisfied with his new living arrangement. I wonder how long it will take him to feel terrible for the giant lies he told about me. I wonder if he'll get back to drinking more heavily, though I can only imagine his family will then notice, and I'm sure he'd rather stay on their good side. I wonder if he'll try to contact me. I can only imagine this is hurting him, even if he is currently upset with me. I think there is a good chance he won't try to contact me after I put a halt on his phone service, but he has to realize the position he put me in. He has to. He's always understood and acknowledged the day after an argument if he may not have done or said some things right the night before.

Will he recognize and regret that he was only a day away from answering many of our problems? Will the thrill of hanging out with his old high school buddies he hasn't seen in years eventually lose its charm because he spent so many years with the comfort of being with me? He put himself in a terrible financial situation, because I know his parents always pushed him toward independence and stopped providing for him after college, so will he want to use me once the money runs out?

I apologize for the long post, though I appreciate greatly those of you that have read this. I feel so confused. Most people don't throw away serious relationships over one or two days. Especially not like that.