I let him stay to be with our 7 kids for easter but he couldn't help himself. He started drinking at 4pm and drank 2 litres of wine. Needless to say he was quite drunk and messy by the end of the night. I can't believe he couldnt control himself for one night. He took my mobile phone off me and sent sms messages to a friend of mine (a male friend in another state) who my ex is sure Im banging but Im not. He read all my sms messges, past ones and when new ones came in and questioned me on them, checked the history of my computer to see where I'd been, what sites I'd been on. The thing is he wants me (us) but he can't stand the noise from the kids. He gets sick of the kids crying, etc and the lack of privacy with having 7 kids. He likes his now nice quiet life in his house by himself where he takes only 2 or three of them a night every so often but even then he says he gets frustrated. I don't know what to do with him. I don't think he will ever give up alcohol, he drinks every day. Now he has crashed out in my bed because he is hungover. Why couldn't he just have his act together for one night. I just can't relax around him or be myself, feel like I'm walking on egg shells. As soon as he walked in yesterday he told me the house was too messy and stank and he didn't want to sit in it all afternoon. It wasn't that bad, we have 7 kids in a 3 bedroom house so what does he expect - obviously perfection, but I can't give it to him and he's disappointed in me that I can't.