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COUGARJG 08/06/2010

My soon to be ex is taking her knew boyfriend down to our family cabin, I have a couple options usually we get money in advance on this particular incedent we have not gotten any cash. so do we change the locks and make them find a motel do I have my brother go down and tell them there not welcome or do I go down there and take the chance of getting in trouble?
How many people think this is pretty low down?

deleted_user 08/06/2010

Well, it's not nice on her part. But you've stepped over the line on a few things where your wife is concerned (not agreeing with what she's done, you're just coasting very close to causing yourself a lot of trouble.) I can understand not wanting her to bring her boyfriend to the family cabin, but you really need to think of a way to put a stop to it that will not create more trouble for you. Let someone with a cooler head help you out on this one.

deleted_user 08/06/2010

This is definitely a low move by the ex. hard call on what to do. You can always post a no trespassing sign and alert the local authorities that if anyone besides (give them names) is there then they need to be escorted from theproperty

patti22 08/06/2010

Ugg to her.

But none of the above. Get a lawyer and follow their advice. Do not go down there. Do not have your brother go down there.

Draw a picture of her and throw darts at it. Write her nasty stuff then burn it. Hide your phone if you can't stop texting or checking for messages.Clean the bathrooms. Run or lift weights until you drop. Do whatever you have to, but stay away from her.

The people on DS that I will never forget, are the ones that talked me threw those first horrible days.....

deleted_user 08/06/2010

Doing anything that you have mentioned would be douchey.

You've pulled some crazy stunts already, step up, be a man and learn to let things go.

You mentioned you want her back, any more nutty tricks and you won't even be able to maintain a public civility.

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