Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Anna2612 09/10/2017

I hadnt seen his face in such a long time, so i did what anyone would do i broke my own heart all over again and i unblocked him from facebook and viewed his account to my surprise not only is with the other girl still but apparently he sold the place we got together and now lives in a new house with her.

I would never understand how he gets to be happy and have it all i would never understand that. He said he never loved me and it as lust why was it so hard to love me yet so easy to love her? what is the fucking lessoon in all this? Fuck i cant breathe or talk to anyone thank god for this site, im going crazy...totally lost my fucking mind by this!

enfieldguy 09/10/2017

I get the feeling of loss. Trying like heck to save myself from it but still feel it if that makes sense

Anna2612 09/10/2017

its just so hard sometimes :(

BCM 09/10/2017

Sending you a big hug Anna. I'm feeling what you're going through, you're not alone x

Anna2612 09/10/2017

Thank you that means so much right now

kbbcoop77 09/10/2017

I learned a long time ago not to stalk my exes social media. People post all the lovey dovey gooey happiness for the world to see how perfect their lives are. It's not called FAKEBOOK for no reason. My exes page was the same way. She ridiculed me for 24 years for being a Seahawks fan but now because her affair partner is a fan she's their number one fan lol all decked out in Seahawks gear wearing eye black on game days..pictures of game day food she's prepared..at first I was extremely hurt but now I can see that's just who she is..fake. Believe me no contact is the only way to get them out of your system. ZERO CONTACT. Like they're dead. Don't get any info about them, don't talk to their family etc etc... over time your brain will flush them out. There may still be some residual hurt or sadness but not the paralyzing agony and skin crawling can't get out of bed pain. You'll get there!

pollyannaslim1 09/11/2017

Your broken heart WILL heal - I know sometimes it doesn't feel that way, but it WILL. As @kbbcoop77 mentioned, what one often sees on FB is not reality. It's easy to hide unhappiness behind a fake smile.
I do, COMPLETELY understand the feeling of "injustice" and yes... I even get the need to sometimes ck up on the ex. hoping they're as miserable as we are feeling at that moment, right? I honestly do not mean to sound trite, but I do know from experience that until we can let go of the past, we just can't move forward. And no... it's not an easy thing to do, so start small - find ways to reward yourself for every little triumph you make in the process of taking another step forward. Even if it's staying off of facebook a day at a time!

cc82 09/11/2017

Hi Anna -
I'm really sorry that your are feeling like me :( I wish I had some wise words to help you especially regarding the unfairness. I don't know what to say to make you feel better bc I don't know what to say to make myself feel better.

Lenoire 09/12/2017

What you did, unblocking him so you can break your heart all over again, is not what anyone would do, far from it. You did it, so you need to own it. You need to own that you prefer to wallow in self-pity, than to have respect for yourself and who you are.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, it's over, he's gone, and stop being a voyeur. Stop comparing yourself to others, and start living life for yourself. If you can't climb out of that self-pity, I'd consider seeking a therapist, who can help you untangle the emotional turmoil that's keeping you in purgatory and causing you to self-harm.

Wishing you well.

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