Answer his questions, but don't give too much information. Example: If someone cheated, don't tell him that. Mom is still Mom.

Mom and Dad just can't be together. We think you're the best, and both want to make sure your life is good, and will work together to make sure that happens.

Don't place blame. I said something along the lines of, "mommy and daddy aren't happy living together anymore but we both love you so much and always will." Right now, your son needs to hear over and over that you'll both be there for him always and that you love him so much.

I don't know what your circumstances are but I also had to repeat over and over to my oldest, because she felt responsible about the break-up, that she did nothing wrong. Over and over, they can't hear it enough.

My answer may be unpopular, but this is my opinion. I believe that children should NEVER be lied to. Ever. Under any circumstances. I would answer the questions asked. However, I wouldn't volunteer information. When asked, answer. Answer only the question asked. I'm always surprised at how much people underestimate exactly how much children know. I guarantee you that your child knows more than you THINK they know.

I'm careful about what I say and I agree that kids know a lot. I would never say, "One of the reasons we're getting divorced is because your dad is an alcoholic." However, my daughter asked if it bothered me when daddy drinks and I answered, "yes, it does."

You know your child so stick with your instincts.

You could sign him up for Rainbow Kids. They teach kids how to deal with death, divorce, etc.

http://rainbows.org/

Depends on the age. Younger children don't need to know the details; however, I would say older children can know more. Especially where substance abuse is concerned. It tends to run in families, and the sooner kids know that it's not acceptable, the better off they'll be in the long run. I think it's good for them to see there are consequences for certain bad behavior. Also opens the door to discussion about safe outlets for what is troubling them.

Hi friend~
Well, it's so obvious you love your son and want to do whatever you can to make this time easier on him. And, it's certainly hard to know how to explain a divorce or a separation to a child. So, you might want to look into talking with a counselor about this situation. Perhaps even seeing if your son could meet with someone one-on-one? I know this seems like a big step to take, but it may make a big difference in how he processes this situation. Lastly, have you picked up any resouces on helping children deal with divorce/separation? I know there's a lot of great material out there on this topic. In fact, while working at Focus on the Family I've often heard the counselors there recommend the books, Helping Children Survive Divorce by Dr. Archibald D. Hart and What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced by William Coleman. So, I wondered if you may want to see if you can get a hold of these or similar items. Just a thought. Well, I'm sure you're dealing with a lot on your own as well, so know that I'm praying for you and your son!

Yes be honest when he asks a question. Let him know that you are bothe there for him if he wants to ask anything and to not be afraid. Let him know that you are still a family and will be there for him forever and love him....you are now just a "different" family.
Kids deserve honesty, it just depends on their age how much info you give them. Like the other person said...you would be surprised how much they already know. Never put the other parent down, now matter how hard it is because in the childs eyes it reflects onto them because they are a part of the other parent.
Kids are resilient.....as long as we love them!