Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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glbreed
glbreed
I don't want to see the friends I had when I was with my ex of fifteen years. They are his friends too. It's awkward and stressful because I know they have seen him, listened to him, and know things about him that I don't need to know in order to heal.

So I avoid them. And I feel isolated.
idontmakeherhapyenuf
idontmakeherhapyenuf
Do you have family who can provide warm words or support? I have chosen not to reveal my marriage issues to my family to prevent them from treating her as "the enemy" (I still hope to save my marriage). I have found support in friends here. Hopefully you can still maintain some friendships among those who know your ex. Give them a chance.

Praying for you.
loosingthebattle
loosingthebattle
This is a hard thing I struggle with too. I did finally tell my parents, but only because my dad is not doing well and putting together a Will. I know the Love and respect they've had for him, even my brothers think my dad likes my stbx better than his own kids. Didn't want him to be included and have it become an even bigger mess later. I went thru my contact List and reached out to Someone I worked with just out of college. She was older single mom and luckily she answered. Great to have someone to talk with and not worry about it coming back around to bite you in the butt.
Good luck we'll all get thru this just gonna take time.
tulip76
tulip76
When I exited my 15 year marriage I fund that I really didn't have many friends. That sounds so sad, but my marriage had been toxic for so many years that dealing with it had sucked all the emotional energy I had, and I had let my friendships slide.

I set about making new friends, and it really wasn't as hard as it sounds. I joined a book club, a crafting club, and a professional group at work. I answered an ad on Craigslist (of all things) looking for another single mom to chat with and we have ended up being very good friends. I made the effort to reconnect with a few people I knew in college, and that's been really fun. In no time I had a full, supportive life again.

Give your current friends the opportunity to support you. Maybe you could write a group letter or email and just explain that this is a really tough time for you, and you hope they understand your silence? I bet many of them want to help but don't know how.

If you do end up unable to maintain those friendships, don't feel afraid to branch out and meet new people, people that he doesn't know. You need support and connections to lead a happy life, and you deserve friendship.