No, Im sorry I cant relate. But I wanted to give you a hug, some cozy pajama's and a gallon of ice cream. We can sit down together, watch sappy chick flicks and get you thru this:) How's that sound?
Oh yeah, I forgot the chocolate:) Lots and lots of chocolate!!

I can definitely relate to wanting to move on with your life, but at the same time, not being emotionally ready. Marriage or a serious relationship can truly change a person and you find that what you were once able to do, like letting go and moving on in your younger years, no longer applies in your more mature, older, and wiser years. Preaching to myself, it is always healthier and wiser to take the time to heal before getting involved with someone else. You have time to hurt, process the pain of the broken relationship, and to look back and learn from past experiences. Hope this helps......

I think you have figured it out. You have to invest energy and time in yourself. That's what I did and still do. Most of my friends are women. We laugh, cry and have a blast together. I have been going out with a male friend of mine, but it has taken me 17 months to get there. He is a friend only. There is no demonstration of affection, because we all know where that could lead. I'm authorized to "kick him in the nuts" (I believe this expression belongs to Steven), if he doesn't behave. My advise: surround yourself with girlfriends and grieve.

I'm not sure...but I love your avatar. Friggin hillarious!

Thank you, that is so wonderfully nice :)

I can totally relate. For some reason I have never been all that close to me female friends. I have started to open up to them more in the last year, but for some reason, I find it easier to relate to men. I guess maybe I never got over the high school back stabbing thing? Don't know.

It is very tempting to jump into a new relationship--I would love to. But I know I'm still grieving, I'm also not divorced yet, so it wouldn't be fair to the new guy to take on so much baggage.

I want to work on me and get to know me before I let someone in again. At least you realized that it was too soon before the relationship went too far.

Yes I can relate...I would so like someone new to take the pain away.. I know it's not the right way though..but it is tempting. I am trying to work through this as I know I need time or it won't be in my best interests or the new guy's.

I'm in the "window shopping/fantasy" stage. You know, "oh he's cute...oh gross he just picked his nose...say that one looks nice...oh yeah and so does his wife". At least I'm looking around a little. Too afraid to do much more though.

my girlfriends have been great! It's funny... my best friend now is Jason's ex before me.. I contacted her after hearing that he treated her badly as well. Her group of friends and my group of friends kinda merged and now were one big group of crazy, fun loving girls! We have so much fun! I would definitly recommend that you get get a group of girls that you can just let your hair down around and just be free... free to do girly things, talk about girly things, ect!!

I tried dating a few months after he left but realized it was way too soon to be getting involved with anyone. Now it's been a year and I still don't want to date. I just can't imagine doing the whole dating thing. I was burned so badly that I don't know if I will ever be ready to date again.