Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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maisy4me 06/05/2017

Hi, I only joined today and hoping to meet some genuine friends for mutual support and eventually plenty of laughter. My partner left me 2 months ago for a woman 20 years younger out of the blue. Unfortunately I have to see him a couple of times a week due to him being a gardener and he does a few houses on my street. So hard not talkng to him, however I have totally ignored him because what could I say really ? It would all be negative full of self pity and anger which would be of no value at all. Having to work full time has helped I didn't take any time off simply because all it would have done would give me more time to dwell on my situation. I have a loving family one of my sisters has been encouraging me to read the bible, i'm trying hard to understand it and feel some kind of peace and forgiveness. To be honest if nothing else it is helping me to focus on trying to feel inner peace. Be lovely to hear how you have all dealt with your break ups. Wishing you all a good day x

sammillerdad 06/05/2017

I wish I had advice. It's been almost 4 months since my wife left me. Now says she wants a divorce because I am " too emotional for her to deal with" I only became tha way because she left me. She kept going back and forth. Hugging and kissing and telling me she loves me one day. Then the next day has nothing to do with me. I get really sad and upset and can't deal so I say what I'm thinking and it's not always nice. If anyone can help.....

lillen 06/05/2017

Hi Maisy, when i was going through my divorce 3 years ago, (he cheated on me, twice. she's his wife now) , it pains me at first to have to see my ex ( we work in the same place) almost every day. Then I eventually realised, that actually provided me some kind of immunity against him. I became more calm and composed in our court sessions after cos I wasn't shaken up by his presence anymore. He quit of cos just before our divorce was finalised.

I hope you find the peace that you're looking for. Sometimes the answer is already in us. You just need to want it bad enough. :)

maisy4me 06/05/2017

Hi, Firstly Sammillerdad my heart goes out to you. I personally couldn't have handled what you did, allowing my emotions to be played with in such a way, however I can understand trying to work things out between you. If she now wants a divorce there is nothing you can do but allow this to happen I don't say this lightly but if things are meant to be she will come back if not for your own self worth letting go is the best thing in my humble opinion. I truly wish you peace of mind and hope the future becomes a brighter place to live in

Hi Lillen, thank you so much for sharing with me, I know what your saying about having to face your ex partner on a regular basis. It does help me in a way especially when I see them together unfortunately they live just around the corner. Life definitely sucks at times. My problem is I now find myself having to check I look pretty decent whatever time of day, whether I am walking the dog or going to work because I would hate to bump into him or them looking less than semi glam, stupid I know but I don't like the idea of them thinking poor her. My hope is that I can totally forgive and just get on with life. I wish you a happy future whatever your dreams and plans are

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