I was married for 26 years and have been divorced for almost 6. You will definitely come out a stronger person. You will be so proud of yourself for what you have been able to get through. And once it is over, you will be grateful for the new life.

Angry, bitter, resentful.... YEP! That is all normal. Don't worry, it passes when you realize how much better off you are.

Yes you will make it.. a stronger wiser person. Take what u can from your experience from your ex and move on to a happier well deserved life!

Thanks you for the inspiration

I am coming out of a 30 year relationship, 23 years of it married. Only was asked for divorce on the 14 th of February. And my job only 2weeks before that. I think we may be passengers on the same rollercoaster ride. I force myself to take one day at a time. Sometimes alot of deep breaths.

Hey Lyne. Happy Valentine's Day. Wow! I'm taking it one day as well. Its hard not to find myself getting wrapped up in thinking about all the things that led up to this point. I'm sure you deal with that as well. Stay strong and breath. I'll be doing the same and in six months from now we can look back on this time of our lives and see how much better we are. Peace ! ✌

I was married 33 years when I filed for divorce. I'm now almost 10 years divorced. It took another six years to get financially untangled from the ex. Divorce care says it takes 1 year for every four you were married to move forward past your divorce.

You can do this and work towards a better future. I can tell you I am happier than I've been in a long time. Set some goals and think about your future. Then start working in that direction.

I've worked hard to pay off my mortgage on this farm and payoff my truck. There were some times in that six years that the ex still caused me problems but I worked thru them.
Just stay focused on what you want your new life to be .

Thanks Trisha I am making financial plans and I hope that she and I can work through our financial responsibilities without any incidents.

Philip - thank you for the encouragement. I breath and take baby steps. Last night was the first time I slept through the night and didn't find myself waking up at four am with an anxiety attack. I do think of how everything led to this. However, Today is a good day. Even better with your post.

Trish, hmm. Your post intrigued me. 1 year for every 4 married? Not sure i like that.
I have however have started my own bucket list of sorts. Trying slowly to develop a life. I have an open plan. I lost my job of 8 years two weeks before he announced wanting the divorce and currently looking for new career or employment. My kids are grown and on their own. First time I have my own choices to make and the future to do what I want. Problem with going through divorce at the same time, the reinventing of oneself can be tiring, confusing and exciting.

Trish, hmm. Your post intrigued me. 1 year for every 4 married? Not sure i like that.
I have however have started my own bucket list of sorts. Trying slowly to develop a life. I have an open plan. I lost my job of 8 years two weeks before he announced wanting the divorce and currently looking for new career or employment. My kids are grown and on their own. First time I have my own choices to make and the future to do what I want. Problem with going through divorce at the same time, the reinventing of oneself can be tiring, confusing and exciting. I guess I am in for a long ride moving forward. Hope I can keep momentum.

I'm angry as hell...a step up from the puddle I was earlier this week. You are allowed to have any feelings you want...it's all a part of the process.

Hearing your stories helps put my own in perspective I'm in the process of a divorce 11 years together 6 years married I'm 33. People keep telling me how young I am but I don't feel that way. I guess it's all relative. I'm sorry so many of you have had such long-term relationships fail, I thought mine was long term but you guys raise it by a factor of 5. For me the major complication is our two young kids who are 9 and 7 and the custody battle about to ensue. I almost can't imagine commiting for half your life and still having it fall apart. Its like whatever happeed "until death do us part?" I feel like I'm old fashioned this way (even though I'm the junior here) because when I stated my vows, i meant them. Didn't think she'd have an affair and put herself above the 3 of us. I guess thats what divorce is for. :( shits fuckin weak.

Hang in there Familyguy. The road ahead is hard sometimes but you can get through it.

Thanks lightandlove