Deleting her photos and numbers is a huge step. Some people cant ever get to that point even after they have got over their ex. You should be proud of yourself for that. At this point you may want to accept that being friends is not an option. It's something you can't control and trying to force the issue may make it worse.

You may want to take sometime to sort your feelings and memories of her. I've been told that getting out of a relationship is like trying to detox of a drug. It will take time to stop obsessing. Maybe you can find a something to do when you get the feeling to contact her. Good luck!

Don’t be so hard on yourself......it just ended and you are going through a lot of emotions. So it’s to be expected. I have to say I agree with the other comment left. It takes time. You will have to go through all the emotions. That was like a 2 year ordeal and it didn’t start over night and you can’t get over it overnight. I will tell you from my experience that the more messages you leave her and the more she ignores you and your reaching out to her.....the more you will feel rejected. It’s a vicious cycle. Been there done that. I dated a guy from Canada and it’s a long story but I had ended it with him for some reasons and it’s a long story but then I missed him and I would send him emails and try to reach out to him but for the most part he ignored them and this went on along time with periods of him responding and then making me mad again and then on and on vicious cycle. Every time he ignored me I felt more and more rejection and I’m the one who ended it and here he was rejecting me. Ugh!!!!! I can’t tell you how much of my dignity I lost and how much satisfaction it gave him ignoring me. Just it takes time and the hardest part of your situation is that she works with you and that’s got to be hard.

Yeah thanks sorry to hear about your ordeal, it really helps when I know that someone can relate, i feel like a stalker, but all I really wanted to do is get my message across. Thanks for helping me through this.

You will go through many emotions....one day you will miss her and then one day you will feel angry and then one day you will feel desperate and then another day you will feel like you don’t care and then it starts all over until you finally work through your loss and get to the other end of it. I’m sorry if this sounds negative but this is reality you are going to mourn....as this is a loss to you and you will eventually be ok and come to acceptance and you cannot force the issue that just doesn’t work. Like I said I learned the hard way and it took so long for me. She probably served as not only a friend and lover but a distraction from your issues with your wife. Now you don’t have that distraction and bandaid that she was to your emotions. Now you don’t have that extra support and you are suffering the loss. Also when someone rejects us it makes us act just like you are acting. Rejection is a very strong thing and it hurts like hell. And it can almost cause you to chase the person even if you wanted it to end. She’s in the wrong too not just you. She knew you were trying to do the right thing. She just didn’t like it respect it. That truly is her problem. Just if you can stop messaging her or trying to reach out because it will only worsen your emotions and situation and she could get ugly and file some kind of charges against you if she is nasty enough. Just get control of your actions and stop letting her control you. I know easier said then done. But you have to.

The rejection causes the obsession. Not your feelings for her so much but more the rejection. It causes you to be obsessed because of the way she ended it and is acting. And it’s like she cut you off like cold turkey so yeah you are also going through the withdrawals of the feel good chemicals you received from her in the past. Your welcome and your not alone I promise I have so been there and it is like torture....but you just have to rise above it. Like you said in one of your posts that when she started going for someone else and rejecting you...it was like you were suddenly in love with her right? Yeah it’s not love as much as the rejection. Sorry to sound like a broken record but it’s true believe me.

Yeah i deleted my facebook account and opened a new account, then the list came up for friends you my know, her profile was basically at the top, i started getting heart palpitations and a sweat come on my forehead, i immediately felt the urge to send her a text, but I immediately deleted the new account and suddenly I felt like I want to cry my eyes out, asking myself what did I do wrong, I'm really getting punished hard, I shouldve let it get so far in the first place, I shouldve known getting involved with a colleague spells bad news. I hate myself so much, and you are right, the fact that she is making me the dog is driving me crazy, i said I wouldn't touch a drink till I know I am fine, some of my other colleagues are like seeing whats going on, its just a matter of time before they find out... I am so worried about this, I am going for an interview on Monday for a better position and I am worried the state Im in may sabotage my chances. This morning while I was driving home from work I thought something stupid, i thought if I must get in an accident will she be concerned at all? Im stupid to even think that, im beibg very naive, you know

Thanks Tonie2018, that comment you made about all the different emotions is really hitting me hard, cause im going through it at this very moment, I havent slept in days, I don't really eat, i took a sleeping pill yesterday, still couldnt sleep, but I'm taking it one step at a time

Watch something that makes you laugh. I know it sounds stupid especially because laughing is Damn near impossible and when you do you just wanna cry. I'm going through this too. I cry every day. But I still go on YouTube, watch my favorite people, and laugh where I can. It's so small and simple but it's something. Try finding something you can watch regularly. I watch YouTube's who upload twice a day. So when I'm sad I know I at least have one thing to look forward to. I really hope for the best, be strong. You will only make it you believe you can.

Well I do feel for your position and hurt in all of this but yeah it’s ok to cry really....it helps to relieve the built up emotions. I usually feel better after I cry. But you really do need some sleep. I think once you get a good nights sleep and you eat and start living life again you will feel better and have a fresh perspective on what happened. The no sleep is the worst part of your situation being that no sleep makes you not be able to think rationally and act rationally. But yeah when my man from Canada

When my man from Canada

For some reason it won’t let me complete my message to you about the man from Canada ???! Dunno why!

Maybe I will have to send you a message about it through your profile

I will later tonight gotta go but I will tell you further what I went through with him!

Wow Virgo M85

This website will not even let me tell you my message through privately messaging you! As soon as I type my man from Canada it stops the message and cuts me off so I have no way of communicating this message to you. I would put my email on here so I could tell you but it probably wouldn’t let me either. Not sure what to do or why it won’t let me communicate with you about my past relationship

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