Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I don't know for sure if he cheated, I'm not sure when the marriage really broke down - but either way it hurt, and it hurt bad.
That was almost 2 yrs ago at christmas. Honestly, I am over him, over the failed marriage. I am truly happy about the person I have become through this hardship.
However,
as with everyone, I have moved forward. I have rekindled something with a man who has always held a really big part of my life. Things are mostly wonderful, but I can't let go of the fact that something just isn't right.
Is it me? Is it him? or is it us? We don't fight, we rarely even disagree. Every aspect of this life makes me content - except the fact that I am constantly thinking I am going to be blind sided by something (him leaving me, him being unhappy, him wanting someone else). I haven't been able to move forward with this - he's even asked to marry me, but I just can't get over this factor.
How have any of you done this? Please tell me you've been able to do this because I so very want to.
That was almost 2 yrs ago at christmas. Honestly, I am over him, over the failed marriage. I am truly happy about the person I have become through this hardship.
However,
as with everyone, I have moved forward. I have rekindled something with a man who has always held a really big part of my life. Things are mostly wonderful, but I can't let go of the fact that something just isn't right.
Is it me? Is it him? or is it us? We don't fight, we rarely even disagree. Every aspect of this life makes me content - except the fact that I am constantly thinking I am going to be blind sided by something (him leaving me, him being unhappy, him wanting someone else). I haven't been able to move forward with this - he's even asked to marry me, but I just can't get over this factor.
How have any of you done this? Please tell me you've been able to do this because I so very want to.
Perhaps they are surfacing now that you are in a new relationship. I have learnt (hard way) to stop and listen.. to that little "voice" or gut feeling. It's there for a reason.
Did you ever try counseling after your div? Not so much about the marriage but about you? might be a good thing to try it now if you haven't especially if you are considering getting married again.. as possibly in this case...
It's hard to accept the good, when the last time we did it went so terribly wrong.
An old friend used to say "Am I looking for patterns in the wallpaper?" That was his way of saying, am I looking for something that isn't there.
You have to do what is right for you, but a good start might be to look yourself in the mirror and say "You deserve to be happy and you have permission to be happy."
Sometimes the physical act of granting ourselves permission for happiness is just what the doctor ordered.
(((hug)))
I don't know if I can ever trust again!
HUGSSSSS