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derby800 03/06/2015

I am moving close to were my ex gf lives. it is nears the ocean. we dated for about three years. we still communicate via email once in a while. I have not seen her for five months. I currently live 60 miles away so I have not been tempted to see her.not sure I am doing the right thing. would appriciate any comments

kbbcoop77 03/06/2015

Why are u moving there

derby800 03/07/2015

I love the ocean and that is where I want to be. she knows I am moving close to her and she is happy for me

ALD13072 03/07/2015

If you want to live near the ocean and have the opportunity then I see no reason why you shouldn't go for it! As long as your ex doesn't somehow fit into the equation.

If you are moving with the hope that being closer to her will bring you back together, then I wouldn't do it. She has made it clear that she doesn't want the same things as you and is focused on her family.

I would go No Contact, which means no email as well. You should have the ability to block her on email. You deserve to be with someone that wants to be with you.

kbbcoop77 03/07/2015

Sounds to me like you're moving to be closer to your ex. I wouldn't sign any long term lease, go month to month until you figure out if this is such a great move. If it was just for the love of the ocean I'm not sure you would be looking for advice on this change of scenery.

derby800 03/07/2015

I am moving because I want to. I can handle being close to my ex. she was not really nice to me and I have finally realized that/ I am sure I will find someone that really wants to be with me, it is just a matter of time. I was over there riding my bike on the beach and felling great. I may run into her sometime, but I can not live in fear of seeing her again. we had some good times together, but we were just not right together. I have no regrets about our relationship. there is always a risk in dating. thanks for all your comments

derby800 03/07/2015

I have memories of her at my current house, so no matter where I go the memories will be there always. it may be hard to see her with another guy, but she may see me with another women. that's life.i want her to happy also. she was treated very badly by her daughter and son in law. I was actually glad to be out of that mess. they are very ungreatfull and narcistic people

kbbcoop77 03/07/2015

Oh I see well good luck to you! I love the ocean myself, being in Seattle it's only a few hours aways by car.

derby800 03/07/2015

as it turns out my ex is from seattle. I visit there. it is a nice placel

kbbcoop77 03/07/2015

Hahah small world! Yes it's a beautiful city

derby800 03/07/2015

that was one nice memory of our relationship

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