Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Hi there - New to this forum. Was wondering if others have experienced what I'm feeling.
My stbx and i have been separated for about 9 months now - and it was me who wanted it - I won't go into detail - but let's just say 3rd time (being separated) was/is the charm. I know that there was no hope. We were married for 17 years - but anyways...He said he was going to file - and although it is the next step - it's still hard - it's like all of a sudden I have this need to "grieve my marriage" although I totally know it's over with and done - it's still sad.
Anyone else ever feel that way - even though it's what you want?
Thanks for sharing!
My stbx and i have been separated for about 9 months now - and it was me who wanted it - I won't go into detail - but let's just say 3rd time (being separated) was/is the charm. I know that there was no hope. We were married for 17 years - but anyways...He said he was going to file - and although it is the next step - it's still hard - it's like all of a sudden I have this need to "grieve my marriage" although I totally know it's over with and done - it's still sad.
Anyone else ever feel that way - even though it's what you want?
Thanks for sharing!
Sad thing is... when a person dies, there are many who come to grieve with you. When you divorce there isnt that support system there and many times you grieve alone. Thats why this place is so great.
*~*Tricia
One, is when you file for the actual divorce after a long separation, another one is when the divorce is final. A third is when your ex remarries.
I want this separation but it is still very hard. Your whole life is changing and it is scary and very sad. Just remember it is normal to feel that way and it will pass. Good luck.
No matter how bad a marriage is - the husband and wife relationship is the most intimate one there is. You become one! When divorce enters the equation you grieve the loss of your spouse, the loss of your best friend, the loss of what you hoped for the future, and even losing some of yourself in the process.
Even though you know it is over - you still need to grieve to heal from divorce. HUGS for you!
Well said Malibu