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I put this in my journal, but thought I would share to see how others feel as well.
Mother's Day is supposed to be the happiest day of the Hallmark year for mom's, right? Well, this is my second Mother's Day as a single mommy of a five-year-old going on 16, 18 or adulthood at any given time.
I feel weird and awkward and feel sometimes like I have either a D (Divorce) or S (single mom) branded on my forehead depending on the situation or the mood. People look at me differently and sometimes say things oddly, I guess. Maybe it's just me....
This past weekend I went to a Women's Luncheon at my friend's church. Well it happened to be the same church I went to for the DivorceCare support group meetup/classes. I overheard one of the children's facilitators telling someone else that she knew me because my daughter was in the DivorceCare for Kids program. Like, is it any of her business to be talking about that to strangers???? Am I now branded among people of different circles as the divorced single mother?????
My friend's friend/neighbor was doing the same thing!!!! "Oh, yeah, I know her.... she is my neighbor's longtime friend and she was in the DivorceCare classes here". Damn! And all this going on at a CHURCH????? Bizarre!
So, if you are looking for me on the streets, I'll be the one with the big DS on my forehead... Hey, "DS" -- Daily Strength???? That's not so bad, huh????
Mother's Day is supposed to be the happiest day of the Hallmark year for mom's, right? Well, this is my second Mother's Day as a single mommy of a five-year-old going on 16, 18 or adulthood at any given time.
I feel weird and awkward and feel sometimes like I have either a D (Divorce) or S (single mom) branded on my forehead depending on the situation or the mood. People look at me differently and sometimes say things oddly, I guess. Maybe it's just me....
This past weekend I went to a Women's Luncheon at my friend's church. Well it happened to be the same church I went to for the DivorceCare support group meetup/classes. I overheard one of the children's facilitators telling someone else that she knew me because my daughter was in the DivorceCare for Kids program. Like, is it any of her business to be talking about that to strangers???? Am I now branded among people of different circles as the divorced single mother?????
My friend's friend/neighbor was doing the same thing!!!! "Oh, yeah, I know her.... she is my neighbor's longtime friend and she was in the DivorceCare classes here". Damn! And all this going on at a CHURCH????? Bizarre!
So, if you are looking for me on the streets, I'll be the one with the big DS on my forehead... Hey, "DS" -- Daily Strength???? That's not so bad, huh????
Yes, it happened. But it doesn't define who I am.
I know it's possible for churches to be full of people who don't have anything better to do than gossip, and other times, it's just people trying to explain how they know you.
It doesn't have to affect you though. Wear it like a badge.
Yes, you were in DC...and their point is?
i'm so sorry you are dealing with this crap.
you just turn and smile. look happy about your situation even if you're not. let them think it's the best thing in the world for you.
(((hugs)))
I pity those people that stick out bad marriages because they don't want the stigma of divorce attached to them. I'm proud of myself every day that I moved on without him dragging me down!!
Thanks again and happy Mother's Day to all the Mothers here!
Hugs to everyone!