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Guil207
Guil207

When she broke up with me we had not really talked about it. She and I were in the dining room and she called my son in and she told him we broke up. That is how I found out. Then she said she was going away for the weekend for "me time." When she got back one of my kids gave her attitude about something. Then m,y kids were arguing about something and when she stopped that, they both mumbled something under their breath. That's when she came in and said "I'm out of here in 30 days." Then about a week and 1/2 later through a conversation with her she said "I'm seeing someone." OMG the pain.
I have been talking to counselors over the phone frequently since this. It helps. There is so much stress in my life because of this. It was "I love you" every day then this. Besides that I can't help picture her doing things in this other persons bedroom that we did.
I told her I won't kick her out because she has a kid but I did say she needs to honor the 30 day thing. I have so much pain, anxiety, sadness, etc. Any thoughts?It just hurst so bad.

Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs, my friend. It is really hard. The way she talked sounds like she is leaving the kids behind too. Let her go. All trust and respect went out the window when they say that. Do not hold her back if she wants to leave before that. Do they not realize that if they can do it with you they can do it to you. It will be a very hard road to walk but you can do it. I was 57 when I gave him his marching papers. Enough was enough. And that was 10 years ago.
Guil207
Guil207
Thanks, I know I should just tell her to go to hell. Still love in a way but really dislike in others. Feelings show we are human, sometimes I wish I was a robot because they have no soul or emotion.
raya
raya
Hi I'm new and dont know really where to start... we've been married 17 years, i had a feeling something wasn't right in my marriage but he kept telling me I'm imagining things so i did the unthinkable i put spyware on his phone... Long story short when i confronted him about his affair he tried throwing me out. She's his ex from high school, they both deny having an affair but i showed them my prove. They act like I'm crazy. He still denies seeing after all these months. We're still living together but separately. He still wants a divorce but haven't made a move yet. The other day i checked the spy app again (he thinks i deleted the app), i found out he's still seeing her and meeting other women. I wanna move on with my life but i dont know how. I have been a housewife all this time so I have no work experience nothing, no way to support me and the kids. I known hes gonna have to pay child support but I'm stillgonna have to work. I've been on a lot of interviews the past few months and everyone says i have no experience. So how do I move on if I'm still dependent on him
Guil207
Guil207
Sounds like a tough situation for sure. Maine is a "no fault state" which means you can't go after a cheating spouse legally. Check yours out, ask for a free consultation from a lawyer, maybe you can get more than child support. Not saying this because I believe in suing people but we obviously need money with kids. My ex was cheating on me, hurt like hell when I found out. You have to look out for you and yours.
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