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Mixed feelings

justlikemusic
justlikemusic

i have a lot of mixed feelings. I don't know how I feel all I know is that I don't want to feel this anymore. I feel stuck. I'm not sure what to think or how to feel. I miss my ex but I know we weren't meant to be. It's hard to know that someone that meant so much and to whom I dedicated so much of my time and energy just let me go...Next week will be a month of no contact and I'm proud of myself for not breaking no contact like I did before. I'm trying to stay strong but I feel so sad. Seems like everyday that passes by the breakup seems to be more and more real. The constant reminder that we'll never be together again. It's hard but I understand it had to happen. I just want to fast forward time. I just want to forget it all. 

MontgomeryDad
MontgomeryDad
All in good time. You'll definitely get there. It's all still very new, and it may take a while, but you'll definitely get there. It takes a strong person to go no contact, and I don't know that I'd be able to do it. Hang in there. You are doing better than you think.
justlikemusic
justlikemusic
Thank you, it doesn't feel like I'm making progress sometimes. It's just very unfortunate the way some things play out. But that's life. Life, happens.
berry2pie
berry2pie
Same goes to me. I don't know what should i do
MontgomeryDad
MontgomeryDad
It's so hard to think straight when you're in the situation. I know, I'm there too. But as an outsider who knows what it's like, you're doing a thousand times better than me, and quite frankly, I aspire to get where you are. That!'s what I mean when I say you're doing better than you think. Stay strong.
thiscantbeit
thiscantbeit
Girl, I know exactly how you feel. We want so much for this to be over. Our emotions can definitely get the best of us and the thoughts that plague us, torture. But we have to believe that it will get better. Good for you to stick to your guns. You are not alone. I will be praying for you, for us. - Hugs
missvicki43
missvicki43
I have broken the no contact rule for the past four months. It's frustrating to say the least. I don't know what is worst, them replying or them ignoring the text. I guess I struggle with him just forgetting about me, and he's already been in a new committed relationship only after two weeks of breaking-up. The fact of the matter is this, time is really the only thing that will get us to where we need to be in our life. Just know that somewhere down the road it will be revealed to you why this happened. It always does for me.
CynDme78
CynDme78
Oh my have I been in your shoes. Stay strong. Yes, the ending of a relationship can be very, very hard. Especially when one feels the needs to make the pain stop and try yet one more time. For myself, it took a while to get over the pain, but eventually I realized that one cannot change the past, one cannot change the person to be what you want them to be, nor can one change one's self to the be "perfect" counterpart.
Somedays have been a "one micro-step forward" moving away from the greif and the pain. some days are not so good at all. But, the thing is to keep moving on with your life, maintaining your friends, getting out and doing positive things for yourself and for others as well.