You are not alone. Just never lose hope that you will make it through this difficult time.

I feel terrible because every time i open my mouth i hurt him more by saying what's on my mind smh

You two are still talking? Are you living together? Kids? Why the divorce?

Divorce is just an awful thing, big hugs, Patti

I to am going through a divorce. We are talking... sometimes as we have kids. I wish we could reconcile. But, I have a tendency to say what is on my mind and not sugar coat things. It causes stress that doesn't need to be there. I am working with my therapist on better communication techniques.

That said, we're hurting. We are grieving. It's OK.

But if you are trying to save your marriage then a therapist could help you to work out ways to better communicate.

I too have mixed emotions. I know I need to file the divorce papers. I need this chapter of my life to be over, but I still keep clinging hoping I'll wake up to a new reality. I don't really want the man any more, but I want my life back. What happened? How could I be mourning for a life that was a lie on so many levels. I'm so angry. I know I need to move towards (and quickly) acceptance. I just don't know how. It all seems so unfair and senseless.

Patti22 yes we are still living together with kids the divorce isn't final I just started filling out papers for divorce smh however I am not in love

I have a problem when people get divorced because they are not in love. Personally speaking I took a vow for good times and bad. This is the worst it has ever been in my marriage. But I also married a person that was my best friend. I have watched so many different couples fall in and out of love and back in... It is the commitment to follow through with that one promise that makes or breaks marriages IMHO.

Yet here I sit, I filed. So I am a hypocrite.

I still periodically send love emails, and always remind her that I love her and the kids. Never stopped. I hold to hope that we can reconcile, but I am also honest with myself that it is unlikely.

In the end, I all I can offer is hope that you find what you need and are looking for.

Are there alcohol issues, drugs, cheating, abuse?

I understand falling out of love, and if you want a divorce over that...then okay...

But if your kids are young, sometimes life just wears you down. Parenting in today's world is much more demanding than many people realize. When I was young, my mother opened up the door, and I ran out and played...from a really young age...3 or so... That's obviously not possible anymore.

Divorce is really expensive, really hard, and sometimes creates as many issues as it solves (driving kids back and forth, exchanging toys, clothes, winter coats and boots...aren't always simple things).

When's the last time the two of you went off on a NICE vacation by yourselves? Ever? If you can, try it first...take 4-7 days. Sleep. Forget the house. Try to reconnect and remember why you fell in love to begin with.

If bills are an issue...move to a smaller house. Money stress can kill a marriage...

IDK, just my 2 cents. Everyone has to find their own way. Big supportive hugs, Patti