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orangeblast95
orangeblast95

Hello everyone,


I have been going through a rough time after being with a girl for over two years and wanted to marry her. However, a few weeks ago she cheated on me and decided to go with the guy instead of me. Now I have not been talking to her for three days until today because I used to live with her for two years which is very difficult to change. I have asked her to bring me my things tomorrow but I am not sure how to react. She has told me that she has been doing everyday things that often involved me. She has also kept me on her phone as the nickname she gave me that was "Monkey". I am not sure how to approach her tomorrow if she does meet me for my things. I have been trying to move on but it has been very difficult for me to not even text her because I have been doing it for two years. I need help in figuring how to approach this situation tomorrow, any advice would be helpful!

run2bfree
run2bfree
Well in the end lucky you, you found out before you married her. Imagine you married her and had kids and she was cheating, much more difficult. Some people just deal with stress by cheating, hope you find a nice one the next time that talks about her stress instead of jumping in bed with another man..so hurtful
If you are having a hard time, talk to a buddy or a therapist so you can move on and let the cheater be with another man she will do the same thing too
Punkybrew
Punkybrew
She cheated she'll do it again. The other guy probably just wanted one thing. Now she wants to bring her problems back to you. You dont need that in your life. She not worth the headache in the long run. Let her find another cheater like herself so they can cheater on eachother. Obviously you're not like her. Dont feed into her tomorrow she's planning to break your heart
Gutted
Gutted
This just falls in the category of bad habits being hard to break. You're not saying no contact is hard because you love and miss her, you are saying it hard cause it's been your habit.

Ask her to delete you from her phone, block on her social media and your phone and simply move on. Replace that habit with some other more satisfying habit. Let's face it, there are a thousand more satisfying things you could be doing than mooning over a girl who cheated on you. Once a person betrays your trust, you should expect them to be remorseful and do whatever it takes to make things right. Instead, she chose the other dude. It's over, move on.
orangeblast95
orangeblast95
It has been very difficult for me to move on because we did so much over the past two years such as going across the world with her. I am trying to find a good habit to replace missing her but at night I am having a lot of issues because I cannot sleep because I keep thinking about it. I am very sad that she chose him over me after supporting her like she deserved and wanted. I am not sure what I did wrong to deserve this because I did everything possible to make her feel loved and secure.