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Missing my ex wife

NOTwhatIthought
NOTwhatIthought

I'm frustrated right now. My ex wife has been out of my life for 1 1/2 years. We have been divorced for a year. She treated me like crap by leaving me without warning for her ex husband. 


Yet, I miss her. The days we were together weren't all bad. But, what should it matter anymore? I keep telling myself that God has a plan for my life and I should just be patient. I've done my best to move on. Evening joining a dating site (no luck so far). But, the memories keep coming back. Its a weight around my neck I don't need.


She's called me a couple of times since the divorce, but I keep telling her to leave me alone. Besides, I could never trust her again. 


When we got married, I signed on forever. She didn't. So why should I bother with the thoughts anymore?

Ghostdancer
Ghostdancer
You sound like someone with faith in your Higher Power being in your life. Not sure what religion if any you practice but that would be my first thought as he original fix up hook up dating site that’s ever been, the original multi-denominational place; CHURCH!!!! I’d say maybe more odds in that for life commitment clause being celebrated in that mix of the opposite sex. And no I’m not being disrespectful to God I’m sure He certifies and approves the strength to stay in love needed in any partnership. Best wishes on finding your significant other.
NOTwhatIthought
NOTwhatIthought
I'm a committed Christian.
mariegoldylocks
mariegoldylocks
Hello Notwhatithought,
Church is the place that helped me going through my divorce. I got so much love and support from them and met an amazing support system there. Worshipping strengthen the soul and prayers for others is very empowering.
At your local church there is probably groups such as Men's breakfast, activities that you can do that will help you going through your difficulties.
Wishing you best
Marie
Misred
Misred
God does have a plan. Have you tried asking Him? I agree you should try seeking out the mens groups at your church and get involved. Dating will not solve your loneliness, in fact, I've seen many people end up with someone new who is awful just because they are lonely.
WeedPuller
WeedPuller
I am reading and I am experiencing that emotions will roll back and forth unexpectedly for a time we won't be able to know.

What I am doing now when I get emotions that are uncomfortable about my ex moving on is I self talk about it. I say to myself "Ok, here this emotion comes again. I thought I was done with it but I guess I'm not." And then I hold on for the ride until the next thought/emotion comes in.

Hang on there and realize that your feelings are just your feelings. Try to have them as peacefully as you can and don't take them as some kind of sign or judgement about your progress so far.

Best of luck. I hate when emotions come back uninvited too.