you just have to put one foot in front of the other and take it day by day. this is a difficult phase.. and the pain is unbearable i know.

im very sorry you are hurting. hugs. but things will evolve and you will not always feel this way. i am sure of it.

I hope so too, thanks for the kind words ...
but it just goes on and on

I go through the same thing. You are remembering all the good times, and that makes it harder to let go.
When i think about all the pain he caused me, all the lying, cheating, it makes me stronger. It makes me angry at him for doing that. I get angry that he left me for a whore. And it makes it alot easier to let go.
Everytime i hear what a whore she is, it makes me hold my head up even higher. I am a better person that she is.
So try to stop thinking about the man he used to be. The man you fell in love with, because he's not that man anymore.
Its your time now, make the most of it.

Hi Lonelygal,

I can feel your pain my friend. My husband left me a few weeks ago and has cut off all contact with me also, despite my efforts to talk to him (with the constant hope we would reunite)....

Joining this forum was the best thing i could have done, I no longer feel alone and I hope together we can all find ways to move forward and find peace in our lives. Mrschief is so right... these men arent the men we fell in love with... we have to accept that they have changed and dont deserve our unconditional love.

It is time to try and find a way to take care of ourselves. Stay strong girl.

Thanks, all the messages make me feel so much better and stronger.

Hugs. I know how you are feeling. Time will heal us. Be strong and know that the only way to heal is to go through the pain.

Hugs, C.

It's been four months for me also. I actually miss him more right now than when he first moved out. My counselor told me to not romanticize the GOOD parts of my marriage and try to remember that there was TON of bad that I'm choosing to not think about.

Ask yourself....would you want your life to go back to what it was with him? With my husband, I wouldn't. He drank, abused pills and wasn't very nice when he did. I miss the good times with my husband but the bad times were just TOO bad. Unfortunately, it doesn't keep me from missing him or wishing it could have been different.

It WILL get better until one day you will wake up and realize that you HAVEN'T been hurting and you didn't even think about it.

its going to be 4 months for me too. @harleycindy those words are very helpfu. I also miss him more now than at first. I will try to keep head high. Right now I at a family easter get together and I locked in a room sitting on the floor crying my soul out, broken. Ur words will hopefully help me get up and face the reat of the day so that I can be thankful for all that I do have.